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After saying that guilt is useless, I'm having a real problem with it right now. My uncle who had been battling cancer for over 2 years just passed away this morning. I feel so guilty cuz I was so involved in trying to have this surgery and things, and didn't spend as much time with him as I could have. sometimes I can be so self-centered I even told him I'd come see him on Sunday and never made it. I know I can't do anything about it now, but it still hurts so much

(((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))) Your uncle knows you were thinking of him and that you love him. I'm sure he is happy for your surgery and for you to live a long healthy life. If the shoes were reversed isn't that how you would feel for him. I know it's hard right now, and I'll keep you in my prayers. lol jen

I am so sorry about your loss. Of course your uncle knew that you loved him. Try to let go of the guilt if you can. It will get better.

I am so sorry for your loss... when i went threw my grand daughter's katie death and the day she died .. I remember hearing her laugh in bath tub ,,, I usually get up with her and enjoy my time with her crawling in my bed .. well hubby had his RNY that week before and she would jump on grandpa tummy so we didn't have her in our bed .like we usually did.. I insisted she keep off the bed .. Oh the guilt I was feeling ... from him having the WLS Off went katie to day care .. and I didn't even say goodbye or even see her that morning .. by 3 pm katie had died in her sleep .. from sids The guilt was part of the shock and anger etc .. what u r feeling is very normal .. your mind cannot reason he is gone .. I should of could of was played out .. in my head .. it is a process and weeks to come I promice u that God will give u and yoiur family comfort,, first 2 nites I was so sick ,,, all I could do is vomit and cry ... the guilt was soooooooo bad but soon numbness will set in ,, this is the steps of grieving .. guilt is part of the process so please please understand this is normal process . May God give u comfort and your family be well Lisa katie sierra Aug 17,2005 to Sept 6 2006 our angel is in heaven ...