weight loss surgery is not cheating grrrrrrrrrrrrr

I have read a few posts and few people have been told having WLS is cheating???? I am so upset people think just because we have wls this is a easy way out???? I see nothing easy being in pain and drinking protien drinks and puking and having poop fly out your butt as u r puking up the mcmuffin cheating.. All of us are here because we all had co morbities and were gonna be cheating out of life like 15 years having a BMI of over 40??? We had this weight loss surgery so we can only eat 600 calories a day .. like 1200 calories a day works.. most of us have to lose over 100lbs if not more.. Wls is a tool.. not cheating way out.. We were looking to live longer and not die from being morbid obease.. I cannot have my hubby carry me of theshold becasue I am 2 fat for him to carry over I get looks as I walk down the streets as some people think I am to fat to walk in public . i get handed a extra belt when i board a plane and then see people move as soon as they see they r gonna be sitting next to a fat women. People think I am stupid because I am fat .. (little do they know my IQ is probally highter then what they weight.) I want to go to family reunion and not be the fattest one there. I had WLS so I would not be cheated years out of my life.I want to see my kids graduated from college and one graduates from college june 9 with 4 year RN degree.. yipeeeeeee ok i am done with my soap box Be well Lisa

I absolutely agree. Ppl don't realize that this is a last resort, I didn't wake up one day and just decide, ok, I want to have a surgeon open me up and rearrange my guts so I have eat like an extra-terrestrial for the rest of my life. I have been fat my whole life, since I can remember. When the doctor asked me what my lowest weight was, the only one I could remember was being like 175 in junior high, that's a horrible memory to have. I had no life growing up, and even after I went to college. I was always so self-conscious about my weight and basically became a hermit because I hated being the fattest one in any group. I'm still working on those issues, but am getting much better now that I have some hope. I had this surgery for a lot of reasons. I'm 28 years old and tired of not being able to do things that "skinny" ppl can do. Like I have to sit on the bed to put socks and shoes on. Like being able to take a bubble bath and not have to squeeze in and out of the tub, and be a contortionist trying to get back out without breaking a leg too. I have problems with seatbelts too, at least in cars, half the time they don't fit me, so I guess I get to be the one who goes through the windshield, oh well, one less fat person in the world to feed, right?? To be able to go into a store (any store) and find something that actually fits nice and _looks_ nice. Like being able to buy a swimsuit like I just did tonight without having to pay $10 more just to get a size that I can wear (grrrrrrrrrr!!). Like having the doctor (pcp) take me seriously when I tell him I've had really really severe joint pain in my left hip for almost 10 years and have him actually try to do something for me, other than just telling me I'm too fat. Same thing with the gynecologist (sorry, guys, if this is tmi). I've had really really bad female problems since forever and that's all I've ever heard, is my weight. They won't even attempt to try to help me. The only thing that I really really enjoy and love doing is riding horses, that's actually what I wanted to do for a career, but that 's another story. The last time I was in lessons, I was 250 lbs, and finally decided that it was just getting too hard, I needed help getting on and off, and it just wasn't fair to make a horse lug me around. That was 5 years ago. Now I'm working on getting this weight off, and looking for a lesson barn, and hopefully (cross your fingers) next year will have a horse of my very own, that's my ultimate goal right now. I also did it because there is a lot of diabetes in my family, on both sides, and I was terrified of that. I don't know how I missed not having it, but the nurse in the hospital, after I told her this, said that I don't have to worry about that ever again, which is a relief. I've also seen ppl my age with canes and in wheelchairs, and I did _not_ want that to happen to me. As I said in another post, I was not allowed to join in on the weight loss contest at my work because they said that having surgery would be cheating. Which in a way I understand that I would win, because I would have the most weight loss, but I even said that they could just not count like the first 20 or 30 lbs, like give me a handicap. Oh, well, screw them, right? most of them are just starving themselves, not doing this the healthy way at all, and I'm losing more, faster, than they are anyways. Well, now I've taken my turn on the soap box anybody else wanna have a shot? Thanks for letting me rant, Wynette

I think having this surgery will save my life from a untimely death.. I don't have a very good support system with having WLS but my A team is awesome .. I have up down moments and seems I am having the moody moments.. I was not a moody person tell i had this surgery but then again I was to busy stuffing food down to be moody.. Now I have to come to terms that I can no longer eat my way threw stress.. We are not cheating we r getting healthy .. and if we r cheating they hey more power to us LOL.. at least we will make it to finsh line alittle faster I work as a emt and i transport morbid obese patients all the time and some r 500plus lbs and i refuse to be like that they r not living they r exisiting.. they suffer and i know they r trapped .. I remember this morbid obease pt was so heavy he could not wash himself properly and when we went to move him he had maggots in his fat folds.. it was that point i knew i never wanted to be fat anymore ok off my box again but sometimes we got to get this off our chests Lisa

My response has typically been this is a better option than staying on the 700 calorie liquid diet I was on for 8 months to get this surgery. Everytime I cheated even a little I gained 5 lbs back.