family outing

Hello Everyone My family decided that we should go out to eat before decorating the graves of loved ones. The place they chose? OLIVE GARDEN (a swore spot for me). I went and ordered chicken crustina (sp?) I scraped off all of the little crumb things and put the chicken seperate from the pasta. I ate the inside part of the chicken only dipping the chicken in the garlic sauce. I broke off a 1/4 peice of a breadstick and ate only four bites of it. Two with a little dressing and two bites with some alfredo sauce from my daughters plate. I stopped eating when I was satisfied. I am really struggling with the guilt issues of eating food. I did satisfy my craving and I'm sure I wont be wanting any of olive garden for a long while. I just feel so guilty for eating the few bites of bread because i know i'm not suppose to until month five. There it was yesterday with the mashed potatos and then today with the bread. I'm such a failure in most things, I'm starting to think maybe i will mess this whole new chance at life up as well. Thank you for listening. Is anyone else dealing with guilt over food? I try to tell myself its a 1/4 of a breadstick...that I didnt even eat all of..just four tiny bites. But for the first time I didnt leave olive garden stuffed to the point of feeling like i was going to puke... Amanda

Wanna know something? One of my school counselors once told me that guilt is a useless emotion, it doesn't do anything but make you feel bad for something that you can't change. Don't feel guilty. Just move past this and get back on track. I know I've been kind of off the diet this weekend but I'm not letting it get to me. Take a deep breath and try again, and you are at least trying. I know of someone who isn't and is gonna have some serious health problems in the future. Nobody's perfect, I know, I've spent pretty much my entire life trying to be for my parents and everyone else. We're all here for you, ready and willing to listen. You are not a failure, this was a big step for you and everyone else on here, and it's not gonna be easy. If you need to talk some more, feel free to message me on here, or email me at [email protected]

Wynette is right. Guilt is useless. If you were not following your diet, make a decision to do better, and do it. That's all. The past is behind you. The surgery is a tool. You have to decide everytime you sit down to eat what you will do with it. You can do better. Everyone on this board is here to support you.

I have a saying - Guilt, the gift that keeps on giving. Guilt is a useless emotion that's for sure. I think you ate fairly wisely. You could have gone really overboard and you didn't. You're right, bread isn't in the picture yet, but you tolerated it and it's not something you're going to do again every day. The thing about learning how to eat properly for us in now is portion control, which you did, making some smart moves (scraping off the crusty bits), and limiting yourself to a small bit of the bread. The key of your post is this: "I stopped eating when I was satisfied." You couldn't have said that a few weeks ago, because this time, you weren't stuffed to the puking point. so you see, Amanda, you've already learned some important lessons. Stop beating yourself up for the one thing you ate. Tell guilt to take a hike!! Inky

Are you punishing yourself? Why are you feeling so guilty?? Think about these questions......I know I had to also.....you will be ok.....just keep posting with us and know that we are here for you...