not telling my family I am having wls

I decided when i made my journey having wls I was not gonna include my family Mom Dad sisters or brother , just my hubby and children will know and were sworn to never tell them.Just felt they were not gonna be a positive support to my decision as they gave us heck when hubby had his wls .. all the negative stories etc I don't need that ..And IF some reason I fail the wls I don't have to hide my head to them ...Again My life to them is nothing but a failure. most people would think i am sucessful being a Emt but to them being a doctor Lab tech, Computer programer is sucess not a fat Emt.. Hey I just thought of something i am gonna look so much better in those trama pants wohooooooooooooooooooo LOL None of them r member of the morbid obese club .. they have lived the life of thin clothes and not humilation of getting clothes that were so big to them and were to small on me club. I use to get the lecture stop eating so much .. if u lose weight i will buy u 1000 dollars of clothes (gonna take sis up on this hehe am i cheating? lol) or best yet u can't be miss america being fat .Well i am 48 and married and pass the age and martial status for that dad anyway. LOL I wonder what i am gonna look like for the family reunion end of july??? as i look back at being at weigh****ches at 13 . It is time to join the group of non obese people .. something i have only dreamed one day becomming. and I resign my charter membership clean my plate club ... and hello to the new me new beginings club of wls. I must admit been kinbda embaressed going threw pre ops and people knowing what kinda surgery u r having but most have been very supportive and seem to welcome me into the non obese club already LOL.

Lisa, sometimes keeping a secret is the best way. I have only told mom, dad, sister and my husband. The kids know that I am having surgery though they don't know what for. I live a very small town and don't want it to get out. I think that you are VERY brave for making the decision that you have made and admire you for that. For your family reunion ... girl you are going to make their jaws drop. And when they ask you how you did it ... you should tell them that it was the Grapefruit and salmon juice diet! LOL ... then they will all be trying it! LOL I as well have felt embarassed about the pre ops - but I have been surprised with how tender and accepting the people I have encountered have been. Sometimes people can really surprise you!

hmmmmmmmmmmmmm salmon juice and grapefruit diet lol ... LOL how funny.. but i am gonna just say i am on protien shakes and let them all try it and die of starvation .. i cannot help i forgot to mention Lap band lol.. and good luck on yiur surgery hon i am saying my prayers for ya.. be well Lisa

I think it is a good idea the more positive the better ....

it is about the new us and new leash on life ... best to u on your wls prayers included. be well Lisa

Dearest Lisa, I had no idea you were having the WLS when you replied regarding your husband's success. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. You are already beautiful. As far as keeping a secret with your family, I totally understand. Definitely need the positive reenforcement and if they can't be happy for you, to heck with their negative. I haven't told anyone except my family and dearest friends because I don't want the point and whispers afterwards. Come to think of it, they probably will point and whisper anyway. I'm happy for you and I think emt's are wonderful. I am also in the medical field. I'm one of those ICD-9 coders and I'm good at it. Morbid obesity is 278.01. Hypertension is 401.9. I plan on not having any medical conditions to code after my surgery. Good luck to you and stay positive. Again, you are awesome and emt's save lives.

I wonder what ICD9 codes i have lol ..... ty for sweet words hon.... since i been on this site i have seen so many beautiful people ... inside and out .. some day i may actually think i am pretty on the outside .. tell then i know i have the right stuff inside just need to get the fat outside lol be well and best to u on your surgery Lisa