I am starting to get scared

Hi all fellow april losers!! my date is April 2nd. Only 8 days away!! At first it seemed so far away but the time has really flown. I have wanted this for soo long and now that its really happening I am freaking out. I have all of these doubts and fears all of a sudden. I keep thinking, what if it doesnt work? what if i miss out on something because of this? (like eating something great) what if i look awful afterwards? what if my husband isnt attracted to me anymore? what if i have a lot of extra skin? I know all of the positives, i wont have to sleep with a c pap. my back wont hurt all the time. my hip wont hurt as much. i will be able to walk more then 50 feet without getting out of breath. i will be able to ride bikes with my kids and play outside with them. ill be able to tie my shoes without losing my breath. i will be able to shop in the "normal" size stores. I know all of the positives but i cant help but think of all the "what ifs? Sorry this is such a long post. i really needed to get this off of my chest. is anyone else feeling this way? i even had a "fleeting" thought to cancel the whole thing!!! it was very fleeting!! Michelle

I know EXACTLY how you are feeling right now. My surgery is 4/2 also and I have been stressing out so much I didn't get much sleep all weekend. It's pretty sad when you look forward to getting back to work on a Monday to take your mind off of things. Soon we will be on the losing side and feeling much better. Dani

Its funny that you said that about going back to work! because i feel alot better today! i was able to get my mind off of it a little at work today . i cant wait to be on the losing side!! Michelle

Well I have surgery April 4th. I can understand your fears and worries. But almost everything that you are worried about can be fixed..lol.....I too am worried that I will look older...My mom said to me that we can get those electrode things making everything tighter...But yes I think that what you are worried about is normal...But this will work and you will be just fine.....The whole Forum is here for you......

Thank you for replying. i do have a question... what electrode things? I want them!!! Michelle

My Date is April 4th also, I hope im doing the right thing, do they have the chicken exit at the hospital ??? When I got my date i was so so happy, but that wore off when the reality hit, oh my thats a few weeks away, do you have an angel\???

We have all had these concerns but just remember that you made this choice for a reason. The main thing that stuck out in my mind was the fact that this could add 10 years on to my life. For all of your what if's you can come back with positve what if's. Mine are: even the slightest possiblity of High blood pressure gone, Acid reflux gone, Sleep Apnea gone, Back, hip, leg pain gone, Tons of extra weight gone, More active life style, more energy, better self esteem, possibility of a longer life. As far as the loose skin. I will have to work hard. No one said it was easy but it can not be as hard as we have it right now. It has to be your decision. Hope this is a little encouragement. If not..... think about your new wardrobe! I am. M.Y.

You are all right! I need to not think about all of the negatives and think about all the postives!! especially shopping!!! Michelle

im having surgery on 4/2 also!!!!! i have also had those fleeting thoughts that you had.....other than canceling the surgery lol but just keep using the positive self talk....that has seemed to get me through i start my diet tomorrow....just think, we will be losers before you know it and this time in 2 weeks i bet you already feel better!!!! keep us posted melissa

MICHELLE , I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU ARE FEELING. I HAVE MY SURGERY ON THE 10TH AND I WAS SO SCARED WHEN I GOT MY DATE. I WANTED TO CANCEL TOO. BUT AS IT GETS CLOSER I SEEM TO FEEL MORE AT EASE. NOW I HAVE TO PSYCH MYSELF UP EVERYDAY AND JUST THINK OF THE POSITIVE THINGS THAT WILL COME FROM THIS SURGERY . JUST THINK BEFORE LONG WE WILL FEEL SO MUCH BETTER .OUR HEALTH WILL BE SO MUCH BETTER. WE ARE ALL SOMEWHAT AFRAID .I BELIEVE ITS A FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN . NOT KNOWING WHAT THE OUTCOME WILL BE .WHETHER IT BE GOOD OR BAD. BUT IF YOU HAVE FAITH IT WILL BE ALRIGHT. AND THERE ARE SO MANY WONDERFUL PEOPLE HERE WE WILL SUPPORT YOU IF YOU NEED AN EAR IM HERE . HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER.