Mixed Emotions!

My son , who is 19, ran out of the house with tears in his eyes when I told him that I had a date. the more I tried to talk to him -- Well, it just made things worse. He yelled "I DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT!" He is scared and thinks he knows it all-- of course. I have been trying to educate him on this along the way but he always replied "You should love yourself the way you are!" or " Be Real Momma-- not fake-- You don't need this surgery" I know that one day he will understand or possibly not he is 6'4" tall and weighs around 180 lbs. Tall, slim, and fit. I love my son and I love myself and that is why I choose to do this. So again the reason for this post__ It is so good to have people who can relate to what you are going through. I appreciate all of you! M.Y.

Aww Girl ... that is tough. You know for that very reason I haven't told my 15yr old son. I am really sorry to hear that your son is going through this emotional time. The good news is ... he really loves his Momma Monique

Now I finally understand why some choose not to tell until afterwards! Thanks M.Y.

I know what you are going thru. My son is 16 and he was scared that I was having it done. Then he watched the procedure on the discovery health channel and saw how much it improved this guys life. Now he is all for it. He wants his old mom back He will come around when he sees that you are feeling better and have more energy to do things. Having this surgery is not being fake. As far as Im concerned, it's a life saving surgery. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Cindy

Exactly. It will be ok. I think i will see if I can find something that i can get him to watch while I am at the hospital, so he can of soak it all in while I am not there to see his reactions. Thanks M.Y.

M.Y. We made the right decision to have this surgery. It's for our health. Nothings more important to you, or for those that love and depend on you. than your health. Tell junior you're just keeping it real... real alive. DD

Thanks! and it is so true -- he's a teenager so I realize that he has alot of growing up to do. He's not thinking of the way I have been living with all of the symptoms related to obesity. But anyway on a happier note.... My 13 year old and my 11 year old are being really wonderful and supportive and my fiance -- he is my angel on earth! M.Y.

I've received some mixed reactions, most noticeably from my parents and siblings. I didn't tell them until I had been approved that I was even considering it and, while they are supportive, they're not excited. I know they are worried about the surgery and the possible consequences, but I wish the initial reactions would have been more positive. On the plus side, my husband (amazing man) is very supportive, as are my friends and co-workers, many of whom have had the surgery.

Awww.. I bet you cried too if not I would have......He will understand when all is said and done.... My husband does not want me to get this done....But I just told him I love him and I am sorry...But if I don't the weight is going to kill me......I hope that your son understands that you do love yourself and him and that will be enough... My 10 year old said she does not want to visit me in the hospital...she is scared....just like your son is.....WELL Good luck with him...I am here for you just like everyone else on here......HHHHUUUUUGGGGGGGSSSS

I'm a single mom of a 13 year old girl and she is scared that I am going to die. To tell the truth...I am just as scared! But I won't tell her that. I am being very positive . We will get through this and our kids will be happy in the long run.