Had a bad day! Surgery 4/18..

Hello all Post Ops waiting for your surgery date to arrive. Have you had any second thoughts the closer you get? I really want this surgery and know that it is my only hope in losing the weight and to better health. But, I will admit that I am a little scared. I think it was after seeing my doctor today, and he told me about one patient dying 1 month after surgery from a blood clot. Impressing about the importance of WALKING after surgery! I guess I was thinking after 1 month I would not develop blood clots. Oh well, I guess I was wrong.. My husband was the greatest..He held me and let me cry while I vented all my worries then we prayed togather and I felt a while lot better. I think it must be the last minute gitters! Thanks for listening..

Hey Linda You are not alone on the second thoughts. I don't know if I would call what I have second thoughts, but I sure have been running the gambit of emotions here lately. I go from happy to sad, anxious to relieved, and all of it in 30 minute intervals I went to the Doc yesterday for my preop appt, and he said what I am feeling is very normal, everyone goes through it to some extent. So don't feel like the lone ranger. Remember, keep your eye on the end result. Cindee

I've been riding the rollercoaster too here. (We have the same surgery date!) It really sucks b/c my hubby is in Afghanistan and I feel like I am all alone in this. I know it is the rigth thing to do and I try to just give all my worries to God.

I have had all those feelings too. My surgery is the 18th I think the hardest part has been the waiting. Waiting for appointments...waiting for approvals...waiting for my surgery date. I guess soon I'll be waiting...to lose 25 pounds....50 pounds...etc. From this day on let's put it in God's very capable and loving hands and just enjoy the rest of the journey !!! I will if you will !!!! Rhonda

Hi Linda! I've had no second thoughts, however the closer it gets, the more nervous I'm getting. It just hits me out of the blue then passes. What we have to know and understand is that this surgery CAN come with complications and even death. And I personally know someone who did die with post-op complications even after 3 months. HOWEVER, we also have to understand that even though our surgeons can prepare us in their own ways, we have to listen to not only them, but to our bodies. If something doesn't feel or seem right, we have to seek medical attention immediately. Of the major complications I personally know of -- they either weren't following their doctors post-op orders, didn't go for follow up appointments or they put off going to the doctor/hospital even when in SEVERE pain. We just have to be aware of all possibilities, though maybe not probabilities. I think the most important thing is doing what you're doing, and what I've been doing, learn all you can--educate ourselves as much as possible, be prepared, be honest with our surgeons, and be honest with ourselves. I'm so glad your husband is a great support for you. It's totally normal to be on an emotional rollercoaster right now but if you're certain and at peace with your decision for surgery, it'll be okay. ((((((( Linda ))))))))) Stay strong and we're here to listen . You can also email me anytime.

I think we are all riding the rollercoaster of emotions. I know I have been back and forth, up and down, and even that loopdy loop more than one time. This is our last chance to lose the weight, or we will suffer a slow obesity death.

Yea I am feeling the nervous syndrome as well not to mention my hubby istotally freaking out saying I am CRAZY to do this to my body but I look @ it like this @ this point I prayed on it and I always said if your gonna worry DON'T PRAY if you gonna PRAY don't worry 419/2006 God watch over us... Lynn

I think what you're feeling is totally normal. If we weren't a little bit scared I think that would be unusual. We all know that any type of surgery comes with it's risks and this is a major surgery. However we have to move on and think of the wonderful life we will enjoy after. Thousands of people have had such wonderful success and have not suffered from any complications. And lets face facts. If we don't have the surgery do we think we will ever lose the weight and be healthy. No - or else we wouldn't be doing this. We've gone through the weight lose roller coasters and it hasn't worked. This is the one thing that may actually give us our lives back. So its ok to be a little nervous - we're not kids anymore and we know that we're not immortal. Just make sure that you follow all the rules from your doctor and listen to your body. I'm also a firm believer in positive attitude - I think having a positive attitude after surgery (any type) helps with your recovery. My husband is proof of this to me for sure. I'm Apr 18th too. So take care - try not to dwell on the negatives - just think how wonderful your life will be after. And remember we will be waiting to hear your story after. You can't disappoint us now can you so you'll be ok. We'll all be praying for you. Angel hugs Carolyn

I had my surgery on the 5th of april,just 9 days ago and up until the 4th I still had second thoughts. I am NOT sorry I had it though. I am still in a little bit of pain/discomfort and dont move as fast as Iwould like to. ;). I have lost 7 lbs too. I am very happy for making this life changeing decision. I was scheduled to have it done last year but I changed my mind about a month prior to having it done. BUT Good luck with you decisions, I will pray for you. Carollee

Yep. I've got the pre-surgery jitters too. Yesterday for some reason I felt compelled to visit the memorial pages, and even though very few of those who I clicked into actually died from the surgery or complications, and the few who did were very high risk, it still got me thinking about my own mortality. I made this choice in part because I want to be a better Mom to my three little boys. I am very concerned about what would happen to them if I am not around at all. I still feel though, that the Lord has blessed this. I am not high risk, and my surgeons have only lost 1 patient in 6 years. I have prayed that if this is not in his plan that the Lord would close the doors on the surgery, and other than being postponed due to strep, everything has gone very smoothly, I should be fine. May God watch over us all on Tuesday. That's my day too. Happy Easter everyone. Give lots of extra hugs to all your special ones. Heidi L-S