new here, surgery is april 17

hey all...im 19 years old and my surgery date is set for april 17...im really nervous and i cant get my mind off those "what if's"...i just want to get thru the surgery and on with my new life...if neone has any suggestions or tips to get me to calm down n think for the best i would greatly appreciate it...also im sorta looking for a few friends or people i can just kinda fall back on for support...id definitly would be nice to have someone to talk to because i dont have anyone around here who i kno thats actualy gotten it done... please give me some advice :-\ thanks

Hi Andrea- Mine is also on the 17th. It is hard because I have not really decided who I want to tell so I have all these thoughts on my mind but can't really talk to anyone about it. My parents and my brother are the only ones that know so far. Its hard keeping something so exciting to myself so I know what you mean by not really talking to eveyone around you. I don't want to tell coworkers, etc and end up regrettng it later. Don't be nervous, be proud! You are brave enought to make the changes necessary for a better life. I'm excited for both of us! Yeah I just discovered these boards but everyone here seems really supportive so I think this will be a big help. -your April 17th buddy

Hi Andrea my surgery is also April 17 by the grace of God. Congrats to you and to all. May we all have a sucessful surgery in the name of Jesus.

Hi Andrea and welcome! Congratulations on getting your date! I think we all go through moments of "what if" but try not to let that be your focus. Focus on the outcome that you want from this surgery, for your health, and your happiness. I few weeks ago I picked up a book called "Preparing for Surgery" by Peggy Huddleston. And also a Relaxation/Healing CD also by Peggy. It really has calmed my fears and anxieties (not that they don't pop in my mind from time to time) and it has also helped me learn techniques to aid in a more successful surgery and recovery. Maybe also go over to the Pennsylvania board for support with locals and support groups in your area. Glad to have you hear and I wish you all the best with your surgery and weight loss journey! ~ Lisa V

Hi Andrea- I am scheduled for the 17th also...i am nervous and totally excited all in one! I want this so much-but like yourself am scared of the "what if's". Let's just put our faith in god's hands and we should make it thru just fine.

thank you to all that responded, i really appreciate the advice you all have given me. its a week away and im nervous as h**l but im getting thru it...i at first was just thinkin "oh, if something goes wrong, theres no hope, i will *die* right away..but then im like, duh andrea, theres a million doctors around and like, they bring people back to life and make these miracles happen, its not like they wouldnt be able to fix some little mistake or like trauma thing..." so now that i came to my senses i feel much better...but we'll see, i go for my pre-op tests on friday and then surgery is next monday...ahh *lol*