19 more days and counting 4/10

Hi all, starting to get pre-surgery jitters. I was upset yesterday my mind was running what if I don"t wake up(silly I know) Dr. Garber is a great surgeon and I'll be in a good hospital and in good hands. I keep trying to be positive and not be upset in front of the kids(18,17,15). Normally I would comfort myself with food but I"m on a pre-surgery diet to get my BMI to 60 was 63.5 down to 61, 7lbs to go!(lost 18lbs in 28 days so far). Its been a learning experience to deal with my emotions without food. Just talking about it I feel better thanks for listening Good Luck to all and GOD Bless DONNA

God has us all...I am growing nervous as the days go by...My date is April 24th and I just say a prayer everytime I feel i won't wake up on this side. I ask God to show me. Each time he comfort me and say I would not let you get approved to take you. Keep your faith and know that this is the right thing that you are doing to improve your health. So. I am looking forward to your posting a few days after surgery. lol Karen....

First off I want to say congratulations on starting a new healthy life. We have the same date for surgery. I have not been worried/scared, just ready to live the rest of my life. I will see you on the other side.

Donna, We share the same date, and I know how you feel, my last consult and PAT is Friday!

Hi Donna, we share the same surgery date. I have been feeling guilty about not being nervous and have chosen not to write any letters to my loved ones or anything like that. I feel like this is the first day of the rest of my new lighter healthier self. I wish you health and success. I'm looking forward to your posts after surgery. I am having the lap band done.

Hi Donna.. it's good to talk about your feelings and fears. I've found more support and encouragement on this website than with some of my own family and friends. I'm sure it's because we are all going through, or have gone through, the same thing. We truly can relate to everyone in one way or many. It's so normal for us to feel anxieties and and have emotions about what we're going through. It's a HUGE step in our lives we are taking. And I think I'm having more anxiety about the surgery and anesthesia because it's not like emergency surgeries I've had in the past. They just happened. No waiting for months and anticipation of such a drastic change to a life-long (up to this point) way of living and eating. And more time to worry about the surgery itself. But I'm working on it. I'm reading a great book on preparing for surgery/anesthesia with less post-op pain. And listening to a relaxation CD to learn better techniques on reducing my fears and lessening anxiety. It is helping. And I think it's also okay that your kids (since they're 18,17,15) know you might be having some fears or worries about your surgery. I didn't want to share those fears at first with mine because I didn't want them to worry. But at their ages, they're going to worry anyway. We can share with them what we'll be going through, and maybe be selective of how detailed we get with them. They know having surgery isn't like going to the dentist. There are dangers involved with any surgery and things can and do go wrong. But the likehood of something going wrong is less than getting into a car accident. We don't think every time we get into the car that we could die and worry about it (well, maybe some people do But nonetheless, our fears are real and our kids might handle their fears of our surgery better if they know we share the same ones. I have an almost 24 year old and 15 year old. And my son (15) has asked me SO many questions, more than anyone else. So I've been honest with him while remaining positive. It's good to allow others to be there for us when we're having a hard time. It makes us feel better and makes them feel they're important in our lives and well-being. Congratulations on your weight loss so far! Hang in there and know that others share your same fears. They creep up on us and we just have to chase them out of our minds. Take care ~ Lisa

Hi, Lisa Thanks for the encouraging words I'm feeling much better its great to know were all in this together. Its funny it all of sudden creeps on on me and I'm like oh no what am I doing then I go and look at all the success stories and I see where I'm going to be!!!!! See you on the losing side!(my kids laugh every time I say I can't wait to be a big loser!!!!) Donna

Donna, Just wanted to let you know it is all normal for theres feelings we are all going through this and we have a lot of great support here.....best wishes Hugs Lisa