I so can't stand dopey people - a vent!

My boss brought in some cookies for the holidays and I had one. Now this is not about why I had one or anything like that. I am never going to be normal about eating, but even my surgeon has said that we have to cut ourselves some slack now and then. Anyway, I took the cookie and one of my co-workers (who has the brains and personality of a soapdish and that's being nice) literally followed me into the conference/lunchroom and asked me, "are you allowed to be having that?" I was so pissed off and said to her, "if I wasn't, I wouldn't take it." She sort of backed up because I was obviously very annoyed and said, "Oh, I am just kidding." I said, "Well, I don't appreciate being asked a question like that and I don't want you to ever do that to me again." I was shocked at the audacity. Was she making herself my little guardian? One of my other co-workers suggested that she was just showing her concern, but I don't care. We are not close friends so I just felt that she was out of line, but I think the vehemence of my conversation with her should have set her straight. I don't want to have that feeling of having to hide my food. I spent enough years doing that and it's just not something I want to have to do any more. Thanks for letting me vent Sue

I get asked at least once a day by friends and family "are you allowed to have that?" or "what CAN you eat?" It does get annoying but fortunately for them, I love them lol Its good to vent. April

I have not had any one ask me "can you have that" yet, but am sometimes asked, "what can you eat"? I think that question, most of the time, is because most people do not have a clue as to what this surgery is about and really don't know what we can eat. I know my mother-in-law frequently asks because she will try to fix something that I can have or what is best for me to have. I really have not had anyone ask that question, that I felt was being vindictive or sarcastic about it. Julia

It is because of this reason that I didn't go to our work Christmas party. I didn't know what the menu was going to be and I didn't want to deal with people asking me if I could eat this or that - just didn't want to deal with all the questions or feel like I was being watched. I know that I could have gone and not eaten but I didn't want to deal with those questions either. I haven't told many people that I had the surgery - but apparently my boss has. She should have been one that I didn't tell. Anyway - with her helping to spread the word - I just didn't feel comfortable putting myself in that situation. I understand the venting Sue! sarah

This is why I have not told my co-workers I had the surgery. They just think I am dieting and watching what I eat. I hate people watching over me!

While I have had questions like this from some people, I've been luckly so far. Mostly because 3 family members and 2 co-workers already had WLS before me, so all the people around us have already asked these questions of the people before me. So the mostly asked question I have is "So how much weight have you lost so far?" . Not bad in the scheme of things.

It seems mostly like the people who ask me those type of questions really have no clue about our surgery. That co-worker may have been just nosy or maybe ignorant or maybe concerned, but probably just clueless. I bet she never says anything again. Kim M.