Don't even get me started on con artists and serial killers who troll the Web for vulnerable people. Please. I see heartbreak in your future. Slow down and think. post from Lynda W. 7/8/05 to Tom's original post... I don't understand why a) You're so defensive and b) So ready to bring a stranger into your home with your minor children. Your profile says you joined this site in April. That's not really important but what you do will substantially impact the lives of your children who have no control over your actions. your first post to Cheryl this afternoon... I think I speak with some authority/expertise when I say that what you're going to do to your children is selfish and the likely outcome for both of you isn't as rosy as the picture you've painted. And I hope Tom can see that we are posting out of concern for him only and your defensiveness is a great big waving red flag. your second post to Cheryl this afternoon.... In my book that shows you are A. calling her not only a bad person but a bad mother. and B. Lynda suggested she was a possible con-artist and psycho in Tom's post last night. Again, all of your posts may have been meant in the sincerest form of trying to give advice but your wording made her out to be some gold-digging psychopath who was ready to get her claws into anything and anyone. And that you all in NO way accepted her or were willing to support their relationship no matter what. I thought the whole idea behind OH was SUPPORT and encouragement. Not bashing and degrading people just because you don't know them or think their not doing what YOU might or might not do. Thats not my idea of showing encouragement or support.

In July I will be married to the man I met online for 8 years. That came after a roller-coaster ride with men online which was the driving force behind starting what has become THE website about the risks and hazards of internet dating - and THAT will come up No. 1 on Google if you search that term. Okay so what I am reading into this is you dated NUMEROUS men from the internet and you are even getting ready to MARRY a man from the internet but because she is a woman who came on here simply to express her happiness that Tom chose in his last post to introduce her as someone special in his life she is a predator??? Then she was virtually ATTACKED by every person that posted about her happinness and because she is defending her relationship with Tom she's a bad person. Sorry but I don't see HER as being in the wrong in this situation, I see the people who not only attacked her relationship but also her CHARACTER when you all don't even KNOW her. I'm not understanding where your coming from on this. First of all Tom has'nt even expressed a DESIRE to move until SPRING which is...oh by my guesstimation FOUR months away and ALOT can happen in four months. Like deciding to take it slow...or even getting closer and finding that they truly are made for each other. Before the internet came along people met and fell in love and were married within weeks. Geez...imagine that....TRUE LOVE...without the help of some electronic screen. My grandparents are the example I speak of. They met...fell in love and had 9 children together. They were married for 43 years until my grandfather passed away. And my grandmother NEVER remarried and basically grieved herself to death over missing him for years. Whether you have written a library full of books or not still does'nt give the right OR authority to question ANYONE else's motives in a relationship especially if you have no PROOF of wrong doing to back it up. The advice would have been much more appreciated I am sure if you had put it in a more HOSPITABLE and CARING post.

I give loving, free advice to anyone who I fear is vulnerable and I stick by my initial comments. In my opinion, Tom needs to step back and work on himself as an individual. It appears you need to do the same. Anger and bitterness are toxic to yourself and to others. Peace Lynda

And its obvious you know nothing about us...my daughter likes him which is a first in the long line of dating I have been doing. And commet all ya want..no biggie cos I know where my friends are...have a great day and keep on losing. Sheryl

Keep us posted...I'm 10 pounds away from becoming a Century Club member!! Yea, me!! L*