Update on me.

Hello Gang! Just a little update on me. I am down to 380 lbs. that a lost of 156 lbs. from 536 lbs one week preop. A year ago, I was at my heaviest of 555 lbs., its still hard to believe how we can be loosing so much weight that fast and still be so healthy. But I have to let that be and move on. I was down in the Dumps (depressed ) for the last month and half as my relationship with my gf had gone from very friendly to not much at all. She just isn't wanting to be supportive anymore. So I told her its time for me to move on. She doesn't want to change her eating habits or smoking habits, I have done both. I met her 4 years ago and she was one of the people that got me looking into WLS in the first place. Then we ended up living together and I got her into looking at sobering up and got her into treatment. Now she is finaly out in the "Entry Phase" of the treatment. But is going from job to job and doesn't want to do her community service work, so she is looking at going back to jail. I told her I am moving on, your bogging me down and depressed, so 2 weeks ago I was on the singles board here on OH and found this Wonderful woman that lives on the East coast. and we have been talking every day on the phone for a couple hours a day. I am planning to pack up and move down there this coming Spring. Sheryl just had her WLS on the 27th of last month and is doing great. Thanks to all my support and OH... That makes me feel so good to be able to have some one in my life that can relate to what I am going thru. Not the opposte like my ex was. It was so disguisting to watch her when she was eating. She would sit down and eat a whole box of mac n' cheese that served 4 or 5 people... or the last time she was over she had to have Stoffers lasagne not just the indivual serving but the Dam 12 serving size! I said your not going to lose nothing eating that way. I said I thought we were going to be a team here?? IT's called TEAMWORK!!! Then she comes back and say I don't want to be skinny... Well later! I said. How the Heck are you sopposed to be able to work when no one wants to hire you cuz of your appearance... She just don't get it... She don't care that her mother is taking care of her two kids... But she is there kissing her mothers a$$ every minute she can... But I have a feeling thats going to come to a end very shortly.... But I have joined a gym last Friday and went yesterday for the first time and had a great time. I am going to start out slowly and go three days a week for the first week and then work up to 4-5 days a week there after. I did a 8 minute mile on the treadmill yesterday. I could not believe it... I was huffing and puffing like crazy but it felt so good to get my heart rate up. So I am kinda stiff today and taking it easy and be ready for tomorrow. I am going to spend the whole day there as they show movies all day on Wednesdays and I can workout and then rest while watching a movie and get back up and do some more. I am so pumped ... Then I willbe in so good of shape and lookin good for my sweety in Maine.. I am sorry I made this so long, but I had to vent and give all my April buddies a update on whats going on in my life. Thanks for all of you. For the support. ((((((Big Hugs)))))) Tom 536/380/250

Tom, so glad you posted wondering where you were... I wish only the best for you! sorry things did not work out with the old girlfriend but it sounds like you are doing fine now..... take care and hang in there.... cool you are going to the gym! hugs, Anna

No offense Tom and I hate to stick a pin in your bubble, but are you insane? You're planning to uproot and move thousands of miles because you met some woman on the Internet two weeks ago?! You've just broken up with a long term girlfriend and have been on the rollercoaster ride of WLS. I'm positive your hormones are in flux and you need to take a timeout and concentrate on strengthening Tom the Individual. Become your own best friend and take some time to reflect on the changes in your life (BIG ONES!!!) and want you want for your future. Rushing into a rebound relationship is iffy when the chick lives in the same town! Don't even get me started on con artists and serial killers who troll the Web for vulnerable people. Please. I see heartbreak in your future. Slow down and think. I have only your best interests at heart. Lynda

Thanks for vocalizing what I was sitting here biting my tongue over. Tom, internet relationships are backwards and that's problematic. PLEASE take your time and take some time for you. If it's all good, then there's no reason to rush. Please don't uproot your life to move somewhere for somebody you haven't even met in person yet. I try and try and try with my website to warn people away from what you're about to do. But I never hear from them until after they realize their mistakes. Please please please take a very objective look at where you've been and how much you need to spend time with yourself before you consider jumping in to spend time with somebody else in another town. Lisa

Tom I am sooo Happy for the new inner feeling you have the confidence and the energy.. Yes, Maybe y ou are doing a good thing getting rid of the old girlfriend and moving on... sounds like she was a user that we FAT people attract (because we are so starved for attention) but WHOO!!! Slow down with your coastal gf!! Don't even think about moving until you have gone out there and visited and met the lady.. I am a sweet heart online but **** me off in person and I can be a bear!!! You need to go slow!! I know internet marriages and relationships CAN work( my neice has been married to hers for 15 years) but you have to be sensiable about it!!! Talk about it in support group.. Talk to the shrink you talked to pre surgery. Talk to someone who knows you!!! PLease guard the new you!!!! Stay safe.. I know we are all feeling wonderful and the hormones are rageing... but be safe, guard your tender heart. You are only 6 months out!! You haven't even leveled off yet... Linda