were we such whiners?

I was reading the main message board and I had to bite my fingers to keep from typing replies to some of the posts. I honestly don't remember being such a whiner in the first week or month post op. So many act as if they never researched what WLS means and what to expect afterwards. So what if they can't eat anything but liquids for for a week. What did they expect? So what if they can't stand to look at another spoonful of sf jello. What did they expect. So what if "everybody else" is eating "real" food in front of them? What did they expect? So what if "nobody" understands them and what they're going through? What did they expect? God, I can't stand whiners in general and today for some reason I have no patience for them whatsoever! Feeling b*tchy tonight.... Lynda

Hello There Lynda, I've seen your posts many times before and you're always a positive poster......I think we'll give a get out of "*****fest" free card tonight and cut you a break!! Some people get caught up in the moment of the post and freak out a little......they'll learn quckly enough. Have great night!

Lynda, I don't think I was a whiner but I had questions and still do. I learn from these boards everyday. I guess I knew what to exspect. It didn't bother me for people to eat in front of me and I didn't want to eat at first. It was to boring to me. They will be ok. Let's help them. Remember we are all in this journey together. We can all have a bad day so ok you bit--ed today but tomorrow is another day. Bet you are your old self and will not even care about today. See you lighter. Joanne

I was *ecstatic* the first few weeks with the teeny little portions! LOL! It felt SO awesome to eat like a girl instead of a trucker. lol! Aside from just having had my guts sliced open it was the time of my life! I'm weird though so take that into consideration. I did just post a big fat whiney poo about plateaus on the main message board though so I'll keep quiet over in my glass house here. hehehe! ;)

Don't you DARE keep quiet!!! The ONLY reason I come to these boards is I can post whatever I am feeling at the time.. get insite and a little SUPPORT from someone who KNOWS exactly what I am feeling.. EXAMPLE: Yesterday at the clothing exchange pitch in I swallowed a pc of chicken to big... PAIN!!! I felt terrible for a little while but people KNEW what I was going thru and didnt panic. rush around trying to find something to help, tell me to do this and that. and try to help.. just understood.. No one can help in these situations... but knowing they understood...It helped keep me calm so I could digest it, helped more than anything. Hubby drives me NUTS when it happens and makes things worse.. I LIKE reading moaning posts.. when people tell the awful feelings they are having.. I dont feel so alone.. because even though I am thrilled to death to be 80 pounds down and strutting around in size 18s I havent worn in 20 years, I have bad days too... I like knowing I am not the only one.. So people if the world is rosey for you all the time.. GREAT Lucky YOU!! But I for one would still like to chew someones steak for them and lick the sides out of their suzy Q for them.. (people at work). I just CHOOSE not to. Linda

No amount of research can prepare you for reality. Linda

Boy that is the truth. And no amount of post-ops telling you what to expect will prepare you. That used to drive me crazy. So many post-ops were the voice of doom and gloom like "Ohhh you just wait! Oh it's not so easy! The battle of the budge is forever...yada yada yada." I was like "Look can I just look forward to this and feel positive PLEASE if it's not too much trouble??!" Drove me crazy. It didn't prepare me, it made me defensive. You just don't know what it's going to be like until you are actually there, yk?

Here here Linda..I agree with BOTH your posts. I was just about to write something of the sorts. Thank you. I say everyone whine and moan all you want. Thats what we're here for. I know this is one place where I can come and ask what I feel are stupid questions and not get belittled about it. AND, most likely I will get at least one answer to my question. Thanks again... Kelly

While I agree that alot of people seem to not know what to expect getting into all this, I also have to agree that this site is for those of us that need a safe place to ask and get answered the questions that only WLS people can. I researched my WLS extensively, and as a nurse I thought I had all the answers...BOY WAS I WRONG. Those of you who said you dont know til youve been through it are right. I went to counselling, and nutrition classes, but I was not prepared for the mental changes that occurred post op. I am now a member of the century club and proud of it, but I did my fair share of moaning too. It was only through this site that I found the tools and support to get through. 345/244/170 Carol

Dont worry about feeling *****y, it happens to all of us. I dont care what people post and ask about because if they need to vent or whine or moan, I have to know and hope that when I do it too, Ill get some support, and luckily that has happened most of the time. Hope you feel a little brighter soon. hugs from down under Helen