Fat girl brain...

ok its been almost 6 months since my surgery, i was pregnant for two those months so i didnt lose any weight, while watcching tv with my husband last night an ad for weightloss pills came on and he said you need those to lose more weight..... i thought oh your such an asshole he said he was kidding that i didnt really need them because i wasnt THAT fat... i told him that in my head i still see myself as the fat girl and that when i look in the mirro i still see the fat girl.... is anyone else going through this? have an of you had the same problem.... i know that i ahve done darn good with my weight loss and that i still have aways to go but i wonder if this fat girl mentalilty will ever leave me .... or an i even when i am thin on the outside destined to be a fat girl on the inside? Danielle 265/189/150ish

I know what you are talking about, I have the same problem. When I tell people that I really can't "see" the difference yet they look at me like I'm crazy. I also forget that I don't look the same anymore and when I see a man "checking" me out, I wonder why, then I remember that I don't look the same, but I certainly still feel the same insecure person that I was before the surgery.

I have the exact same problem. Alot of people are calling me "skinny". I am way far from skinny and have never been called skinny before in my life. I look in the mirror and I look like I have lost weight, but not like everyone around me has been raving about. Well, everyone has been raving except for my husband. The only comment he says is you can tell you have lost some weight (I am down 91 pounds). His biggest criticism is my new clothes. At the beginning he kept telling me not to spend money on new clothes, just wear the baggy ones. Well after a certain point, stuff is just too baggy. I now only by one pair of jeans in a size (down from a 30 to a 14!). But just the other night he said that my clothes are too tight, I look like I am busting out of them and am I gaining weight. Well, the jeans I had on I could put my arm in with them buttoned. Not too tight in the least. I do not know what is worse, me not seeing my weight loss like everyone else or his comments. Some days I think I need a shrink or drugs!!!! Heather 4-11-05 291/200

I TOTALLY understand where everyone is coming from. I am just over 5 months post-op, and I am down 110 lbs, but when I look into the mirror, I dont seem to see what everyone else see's. I do notice a little bit of weight loss, but some days I just feel really really huge. I started out large to begin with. With the way people carry on when they see me now you would think I was a size 2, but im nowhere near that. Its nice to get all the compliments, but if you dont see it in yourself, then what else is there? I am greatful for all that I have lost and will do whatever it takes to make it to my goal, and I would definately have the surgery again in a heartbeat. Congrats for all you have lost so far, and keep up the good work. we will all make it to goal someday, and hopefully the person we see in the mail will match how we feel on the inside.

My husband told me today that I am skin and bones. I went to a school meeting and saw my reflection in the television in the room. The woman next to me looked very thin. The heavy woman next to me also looked very thin. I looked fat. I am now 3lbs away from 100/goal and 17pounds more than my lowest weight since I was 13. I hear it does go away after awhile. Lisa 254/157/154

OK.. after reading everyones posts... WE have a clothing exchange where several of us get to gether 3 or 4 times a year and get somone elses clothes they shrunk out of.. My first exchange in May I picked up some 22s and 24s. Saturday I will be picking up 16's. THANK God for Goodwill.. I do not by anything NEW.. same old panty girdles. I don't really feel much different, I am the same person..it is the clothes fairy who goes into my closet and changes the sizes.. I haven't changed..It is the perople around me who have changed.. All of a sudden I am worth talking to in their eyes...THEY on the other hand are just as stupid as they were 6 months ago.. I hope I never get that way!!! Linda

Yes, the fat girl in me keeps grabbing the wrong sizes and making me buy my clothes too big. The only time I realize that I am smaller now, is when I accidently catch a glimpse of myself as I go into a store in the the glass on the door. The I am surprised by what I see. I am far from skinny now, but I am smaller..... woo woo!

I think I will always be the fat girl, no matter what. However I do believe if you drop your weight really fast ( im jealous here) it may take you a bit longer to grasp what has happened to your body. I am losing so slowly that I can understand the changes in me and wi**** would hurry up. Im not sure when or if the feelings ever go away because if you are like me and have been fat for such a long time, our feelings are forever raw because of the insecurities and sadness that comes from being the fat girl. Time seems to fly past the older you get and I think we are so busy that sometimes the only time you get to look at yourself in the mirror and really SEE yourself is if we walk past a window and catch a glimps of ourselves as others see us. Perhaps after ps we may relax a bit. I hope so. You look wonderful, by the way! hugs from down under Helen