3 weeks out and very depressed

Hey all. Well, I am 3 weeks out...and I am so depressed-I got put on some anti depressants a few nights ago (will take a while to kick back in)...but my husband has not been supportive and saying very hurtful things since I got this. I am so upset and haven't heard from him in 2 days, how could he do this to me? I am devastated! (He doesn't live here-away for a while). I don't know how to handle this-I can't stop crying and I know it's going to affect my recovery

I am so sorry that you are going through this pain, but from the ashes of pain is a new birth.CRY IT OUT and THEN LIVE THE LIFE YOU WERE BORN TO LIVE. Even if it is without your husband. People say bad things when they can't control the situation. WE ARE NOT PUT ON THIS EARTH TO BE CONTROL, WERE WERE BORN TO LIVE. Take hold of your faith, and LIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOVE, PEACE AND BLESSINGS

hugs......very sorry to hear you are going through this right now. you dont need that from someone that is suppose to be helping you. but like she said, try to cry it out and on the better side think about the new you. you get a new start to your life and you have a lot to look forward too. i went through some really bad things all at once also a few years back but i have pulled myself up and went on. we have too, for ourselves. i no you wont believe this right now but you need to get better for YOU!!! Kick the man thing to the curb and if it can be worked out then i am so happy for you, but if it cant be then you are better off without him. If he isnt going to be there for you when you need him most then he doesnt need to be there for the best reward of all, the new you and soon the skinnier you. well hopefully i havent made it worse for you but given you something to think about. you take care of yourself and try to think about all the new clothes you will need to buy soon.....try to smile and hold your head up.....take care dede

Hi Sweetie, don't worry about what anyone has to say. You did the right thing in taking steps to better health and life for you. Sometimes people are jealous and can't stand for anyone to be happy but theirself. You take care of yourself and everything will fall into place. Your husband can be jealous and maybe even worried and won't show his true feelings. Please try to take care of yourself and kick butt on this weight thing. Keep me posted and I'll be thinking of you and praying for you. Hugs to you. Cathy D

I am very sorry that you are going through so much trouble. I hope that things get better for you. It is a shame that your husband is being that way. Maybe it is insecurity on his part. If he is heavy, maybe it is guilt that he should be doing the same and is not ready to. You have to worry about you and just ignore what he is saying to sabotage you. Best of luck to you!

DK, if this is any consolation, I know what you're going through. My husband was extremely supportive about my decision to have the surgery, and right up to the time I started losing a lot of weight he's been supportive. But he's starting to over-eat and admits that my weight loss is making him insecure and I don't know what to say to him. I don't know what he's afraid of, I was thin when I met him, surely he can't think that losing weight threatens our relationship? But he won't talk to me about it and though he's happy for me when I lose weight, I'm less inclined to mention that I've lost more because it seems to be affecting him negatively. Feel free to email me Lisa

I am almost 4 weeks out, and I am also very depressed. I took it out on my boyfriend last night when I freaked out. I had a pretty good cry. I realized that my love for food was an addition and I am going through withdrawl. Even though I am not hungary, I am sad and depressed I can't eat the food. This is an emotional rollar coaster. I started to question if I had made the right decision. I was already on an antidepressant for other reasons, but I think I will increase my dosage. I am sure this phase will pass. It is difficult for family members because they truely do not know what it is like to be you in this situation. I believe this is the hardest part and it should only get better from here. Keep thinking of what you will look and feel like a year from know. Try to keep yourself busy to prevent depression. I am here for you if you need to chat.