I need your advise!

I am due to have surgery on June 13th. The problem is I have a 2 year old daughter who adores me, too much! She climbs all over me all of the time! She even comes to bed with me everynight. I have been working on breaking her of the habbit of climbing on me, and telling her that mommy is going to have a boo boo soon on her tummy, but she just cant get close enough. My family is very concerned about what will happen when I come home. Any advise?

You have to be firm. You can't ask them not to do something, you have to tell them. I have a five year old who likes to play rough. When he first came at me with one of his piledriver hugs, I had to put my arms out and stop him and tell him "Mommy can't do this, she went to the hospital and she's not feeling well enough to play rightnow." If that doesn't work, then you're not being firm enough and need to follow through with discipline. Now is as good a time as any to point out that she's big enough to sleep in her own bed and while you may have a night or two of heart-wrenching crying, refusal to obey and downright disobedience, you are the parent and you must prevail.

Hi, I had my surgery 1 wk and 2 days ago, and I have a 4 yr old and what I did was after surgery she was allowed to come see me in the hospital i was not quite awake but she at least was able to see me and understand 1st that I was ok and 2nd that mommie was not 100% helathy. When I did get home the following day I made a point to show her the coverings over the stitches and say this is where I had surgery and it is very sore. Please be careful and for the most part this worked she still occasionally forgets but all i have to say is remember I am still sore. You might want to try that. Best of luck to you and I will keep you in my prayers. Ronda Dornemann

Well I have not even had my surgery yet but I can relate to you because I have a 2.8 year old daughter who is glued to me also. What I would suggest to u is like the other person posted let her see you in the hospital and show her your boo-boo. Let her help you put a "band-aid" on your boo-boo and let her kiss it, show her that it hurts and tell her to be careful of it. I hope this works for you and good luck with everything.

My daughter and 2 grandsons live with me. The 3 yr old does me the same way. The weekend I was home, was his weekend with his other grandparents, and we have since put them both in daycare. This is what also had me so tired. I was trying to take care of myself and run after the 2 boys. At 46 it wasn't easy, and with no energy even worse! Now, when they get home in the evening, Cayden runs up to me and looks under my shirt so he can see my boo boos . he still tries to run and jump in my lap and its something he is going to learn he can not do. Fortunately my daughter has been going over to her friends house with them, until bedtime so they are not around me too much at this stage right now. Best of luck! I hope you can find a friend to help you with her when you first come home. My lil stinker heard me saying OHHHHHH so much, out of the blue he starts yelling OHHHHHHHH for no apparent reason. I hurt more from laughing than anything else right now.

Hello, I had my surgery lat Monday, April 11. I have a 4 1/2 yr. old. She's the same way with me. She likes to climb all over me and sleep in my bed. She came to see me in the hospital once. I explained to her that she couldn't climb all over me. When she got there, she was actually scared to come near me. I think she was just worried and didn't know how to handle it. Then when I got home, I showed her my staples and explained to her that she could give me lovin', but she had to be VERY careful because she could hurt me. I haven't had a problem yet, with her. Good luck on your surgery!!!

I have to say that I agree with the others on this. Stay firm and hold your ground. You are't being mean so don't even think about that. Let her come and see you at the hospital because that does help. Try it before hand and don't back down. Hugs to you! Cathy D