Surgery Date in 3 days 4/15 Getting real scared

Hello everyone...Well I am having my surgery in 3 days, on Friday April 15. I am really starting to get nervous now...I just learned that a lady that goes to our support meetings who is 3 years out died this past week from a bowel problem.........Geez.........My prayers to her family and loved ones, but now I am wondering if it is worth it......I just want to sit and cry.........I am a huge baby when it comes to pain, and an even bigger one if I am thinking that I might not make it you know...I'm not ready to die..............sorry for rambling....good luck to everyone with their upcoming dates. Any reply would be greatly appreciated!

I can understand your fears. My sister in law had the same surjury and did not have a good outcome, but she is still alive. Complications can happen and this is why aftercare is important! I look at it this way, no one is promised tomorrow and I could walk out of my house today and be killed in a blink of a eye so I can not live my life in fear of what might or might not ever happen. I just have an unshakable faith that my higher power has a plan for me and I will do fine and if not, then I will at least have enough knowledge to know if I start having bowel problems I need to call my surgeon asap! Your in my prayers, Sandy

Hi Kim I too am having my surgery on Friday and can relate to your anxiety! But I know this is the best decision I can make for myself, my husband and kids. Being obese with diabetes, HBP, high cholestorol plus several other weight related problems is more of a risk then having WLS. I know because my sister died of a heart attack at 49 from all the reasons above! With GOD's guiding hand I know I will come out on the healthy side of life with this tool. I pray for you and a successfull surgery and I say BRING IT ON!!! Im keeping my chins up and welcome this with open flabby arms! PEACE!

Hi Kim and Christi--You are both beautiful and precious in the eyes of the divine one. You will not be forgotten through those eyes, nor in the hearts of us here to support you. Know that you are held in our thoughts and prayers, as watch over you. Sandy, the encouragement that you, who are already 'losers', offer to those of us in the waiting room is beyond priceless! Hugs to all--Sunny

Hi Kim I know what you are going thru. I am also having surgery on Friday.I too am very nervous but I know that I have a better chance with the surgery than I would if I don't have the surgery. At least with this surgery I have a chance of living to see my kids grow up, but if I don't I know I will never see the grow up to get married or have a family. I have faith in my doctor and in God. I know that this is the only decision for me and that it will all be worth it. Good luck to you and your family. You will be in my prayers hugs Kelly

It's scary when you think someone who is 3 years out can die from a compication of the surgery. There could be any number of reasons this happened to that poor woman. Maybe she waited too long to get medical help. I plan to call my surgeon with every ache and pain. I'd rather be a pain to him than to have something happen to me and I kept it to myself. I am nervous too. Everyone is telling me it's not too late to back out. I don't want to back out!! I am sure a case of nerves is quite common, but I have faith that I am doing the best thing for me and my family. I have had so many signs along the way that have convinced me of this. Things happen for a reason, and I know God is guiding me throughout my journey. I will leave you with one more thought: If God takes you to it, He will take you through it.