Good luck with your appt today. I have mine on Monday for a hopeful breast lift. Luckily I dont have much sag in my belly. I have a little in my thighs but if I actually exercised it would look a lot better!! I dont see why we would have to be at a "goal" weight for any amount of time.. I have been at goal about 3 months now. Still gaining and losing them same 3 pounds. I would love to get to 130, that way if I happen to gain that 10-15 pounds back that they say we will, I will still look okay. Right now I weigh 138 and am 5`7. I look thin to others. I still see all the flaws so I feel fat often. Anyways, good luck Beth with your consult. Please post as soon as u get back!!

WTG Jennifer! Do the kids love the new MAMA? Beth Someday I'll fly, someday I'll soar, someday I'll be so much more than my body gives me credit for. Why is it not my time? What is there more to learn? Shed this skin I've been tripping in, never to quite return... -J. Mayer http://meltingmama.blogspot.com

I've heard that separation/divorce is extremely common after major weight loss. 68% - and the average for non-WLS folks is 50%... My situation is slightly different, since he & I are both post-ops... but I openly admit it would be a miracle if it lasts after all the stresses we've gone through, three children, losing eventually about 350 combined lbs. My gut feeling right now is that we will be just fine, but *only* because we did it "together" - KWIM? When we met, we were both overweight, he was about 250 lbs and I was about 200 lbs. We were very young. He then lost about 100 lbs - and regained that and more when we became grown-ups and started popping babies out and going to work to support his new family. Y'all know my story - I just gained and gained with babies - I started out big, 200 lbs - but it just got worse as pregnancies occurred. It makes my brain hurt to think about it - since we're already into this marriage & family thing for many years and we're so young still. I hope that the losses just intensify things - they have so far. I don't want to think that he "settled" for me because he was big - and likewise, either. I was there while he was big AND not so big, and while he was generally the same guy - the not so big guy is much better for me! "Every interpersonal relationship in which the patient participates will change substantially as the dramatic weight loss occurs. This change will affect all relationships, but the marital relationship is one of the most significant - a very high percentage of patients get divorced within the first two years after weight loss surgery. The patient generally becomes more outgoing and socially involved as weight loss progresses; in some cases the patient desires to leave the marriage and in other cases this creates a crisis in confidence for the spouse. We do not have a solution to this problem, except to strongly encourage patients and their loved ones to consider the upcoming stress before surgery. If the marriage is not a strong one, the couple should engage in marriage counseling before the weight loss surgery. Other interpersonal relationships can experience unexpected changes as well - more than one mother or child of a patient has expressed regret over the loss of the person they knew..." ___________________________________________________________ Beth Someday I'll fly, someday I'll soar, someday I'll be so much more than my body gives me credit for. Why is it not my time? What is there more to learn? Shed this skin I've been tripping in, never to quite return... -J. Mayer http://meltingmama.blogspot.com

I don't even know where to start... I am loving my new life.. I remember the night before surgery I did not sleep... Cause I was so happy that it was my last day of being FAT!!! And thats what I was thinking the whole time till I was out of it... Everyone keep asking Jennifer your not scared? I would say no... Cause I'm gonna get little again... Now I just go and go all the time with my kids.. Before surgery you were lucky to get me to do anything as far as playin cause I would be gave out of breath and would be so tired... And now that I've lost so much weight my kids are loving it too.. Cause I'm able to do alot more with them... You just don't know how good it feels to have your kid say how good you loo****ill it happy's... My 9 year old son is so happy he tells me all the time I'm getting little... My 3 year old girl keeps asking me when I'm gonna get my fat belly cut off... Maybe that will be soon... And today I went for my 1 year followup and had my two babies with me and was having some blood work done and my 2year old said to the lady you gonna stick my momma... it was so cute... I went today for my 1 year followup and I have lost 125lbs... I was so happy.. When Dr Nye walked in the room He said WOW what a BIG change and he just keep looking at my chart. Because they take before pics and on out.. And he just went on at how good I looked.. And during the visit he was looking at all the skin and asked me what kind of insurance I had and I told him and he said I should not have no problem getting a tummy tuck.. And he had his nurse take pics and gonna send them to insurance he said when the skin hangs over the pubic area then usually insurance will go ahead and approve you... So wish me LOTS of LUCK!!! He said we would know something in 4 to 6 weeks... Here my measurment I love this part too... I had my mom do my measurment the night before surgery... So this is from 4-27-04 and then the new one is from 4-1-05.. Chest was 53half NOW 39half Butt was 60 NOW 41 half Arm was 16 NOW 12 half Waist was 49 NOW 34and 3/4 Calf was 18half NOW 15half Thighs was 31 NOW 24half Neck was 16 3/4 NOW 13 3/4 Thats a total lost of 64and 3/4 inches lost... Thats alot... I started off at 280 now I'm 155 I was wearing a size 26/28 pants now in a size 8 Could go smaller once I get rid of the belly cause 8 are big in the waist... Sorry its so long but I am so happy and I tell everyone to do it... I would do it again in a heart beat... Jennifer Dr Nye 4/28/04 280/155/135

I have heard this happening... My best friend she lost over 200 lbs and got to a point I just couldn't be around her.. everything was about her.. her ..her.. she was constantly comparing others to her.. putting others down and so forth... She wasn't the friend I once knew, and her relationship suffered too.. it was like she was so in love with herself and nobody else mattered.. Was I jealous? No way.. I couldn't be like that.. after a few years she gained some of her weight back but also gained herself too... she is not just into how she looks and who she looks better than.. she is normal to me..LOL I don't even know why this story has anything to do with your question.. I guess people change.. people grow apart.. lives get better and we start having more confidence in ourself and our relationships.. After my sister had her gastric Bypass.. she moved to japan where she is supposingly making adult movies.. she has changed soooo much..wow.. anyways.. you are beautiful and you have your whole life.. don't make yourself feel like you have done something wrong to make your marriage fail.. you bettered your health and you look awesome.. good for you.. If you are ever in Panama city florida.. we have to go out.. You and I will have a blast!! WOOHOO Love ya girl, LIsa