Anybody have fat days?

Haven't been here in a while--been so busy. Going through a spell of feeling fat again. NOT GOOD!! I am 5'10", and weigh 153 lbs, so I know I am not fat. But when I look in the mirror I see fat. *sigh* So frustrating I can't seem to break the mental hold. Am trying to get pics together and get them posted.

EVERY DAY!!!! I see the sagging skin, the body issues, etc, and I feel fat. I think it is because I had "issues" with my body when I was fat, so I aquaint the bad feelings to being fat. Does that make sense? Fat=icky issues, so icky issues must = being fat, nothing else. right? UNfortunately, this is something we will be dealing with for a lonnnnnng time. I used to blame a lot of my self esteem problems on my weight. Now that the weight is almost all gone, I am forced to deal with the real issues at hand, whatever they may be, since I cannot blame the weight anymore. This surgery fixes out bodies, but not our minds (darn the luck!) After being large for so long, to expect "normalcy" after such a relatively short time is next to impossible. Give it time...the pics will help. Also, one thing that doesn't help, at least with me, is that at 350+ people used to tell me how great I looked...now, I get the same compliments. I look at old pics, and think.."What were they thinking? I looked AWFUL!!! Ewwww!" I have a hard time believing the compliments now because I KNOW what I was before....can I believe them now, or are they just blowing smoke up my skirt? Janice (I hope what I was trying to say came thru the babble..LOL)

I do! Some days I get up and I feel so proud of my body and have a "thin" day (even though I still have 50pounds to lose). And other days I "feel" fat and don't even try to put on jeans and just wear extremely casual clothes to work. Today I happened to have a thin morning! Yesterday was a fat day, no matter what I put on, how I stood in front of the mirror, I could only see the 274 pound Tina, not the 190 pound version that sits here today! Part of my problem is that I'm so far from my goal of losing 100 pounds by my re-birthday on the 23rd. That has really gotten me down and having more "fat" days lately. I think this will take time.

Yep, I totally hear ya. There are days when I feel like I've never lost a pound. Jeans are tight, look in the mirror, roll around middle is sticking out, well you get the idea. But then I look at the pictures of where I've come from and you know what? I don't look so bad after all. Janie

Even Skinny Girls have FAT days Doesn't it just suck that we have worked so hard & gotten so far in our weight loss journey ~ then to have the mental beast bash our dreams?? I have my hubby take a picture of me every month right around the anniversary of my WLS so that when I am having those days I can take out my little photo book & look back to where I came from ... it helps to bring me back to reality and realize how much worse my "Fat Day" could be if I hadn't lost 140#. CHIN UP ~ You have done AWESOME Sue 318/172/170

I get the same thing. There are some days where all I see is the deflated skin and I convince myself that I'm still supermorbidly obese. There are some days that I honestly believe that I'm exactly the same as I was before. . . . I've kept the clothing that proves to me that there is no way that could be true. Thankfully those days are getting fewer and farther between. Every now and then, I will say that I do feel thin too. Some days I'm able to see the progress in completely different ways. On these days I see my narrow little waist, my tiny little thighs, my long slender neck, my very nearly non-existent boobage (they all can't be perfect right?), and my muscular calves. These days are getting more frequent and closer together. One of the weirdest things is if I look down at my legs they look fat, but when I see a photo or mirror they look slender and healthy. Keep going to therapy, keep talking about it here and know that you're definately NOT ALONE, ~Lara

Yes, especially if my clothes are too tight, for me I'd rather have things a little loose than super tight, because of the skin I can't comfortable wear a 14, even though they look good, I'm miserable all day, a 14W may be ok, I haven't tried that. A 16 regular works but very baggie in the but and thighs, comfortable in the waist, I hate things really tight in my waist. My top is a 14, no problem. Oh well. It would be nice to have the skin removed, but 1. I'm chicken and 2. It will be a couple of years before I have enough time off from my new job. So that will give me time to buck up literally and figuratively. Hang in there, look at some before pics. Dianne (back down to 169) Whooo Hooooo 340/169/150

if I get into a funk, I put the on the one pair of pants that I saved from a year ago. They fall right off...and I laugh! What a difference a year makes! Rachel