Depressed & Need some Love/Support

Okay gals - I need some support. I am not feeling so good inside & do not know what to do with myself ... I am snapping at my husband & co-workers & they didn't do anything wrong! I actually started crying today at work & had to excuse myself ~ I think they think I am crazy. I haven't lost anything now going on 3 weeks ... I know this isn't a super long time - but I have actually gained 2lbs back & I am just getting so angry & down on myself ~ I feel like I did before the surgery & this SCARES me to death ... oh great here I go crying again ... what am I doing wrong (on a bad week I usually only lose a half pound). Any support & help you can offer, I am willing to hear. I have been working out 3x a week for 30-40min each session, I am getting in around 60oz of water, 60oz of Protein & trying to keep it under 40g of carbs a day. I just need this scale to move soon or I don't know what I am going to do with myself! I had planned on losing 10# by Wed (which would have been my 3.5 week mark since making my appt) - when I go to see the Plastic Surgeon about fixing some things up ... and not only have I not lost anything but I have gained! HELP Sue 318/199/180

Sue, I have been kind of doing that same thing...snapping at people, especially my hubby and then getting all emotional and weepy on him too. I think our hormones are doing wierd things with all the weightloss and add on top of that the stinking plateaus that we tend to blame ourselves for and then the fact that we or at least I am looking at all this hanging flappy skin and not feeling the greatest about how I look...all that doesnt help. Give yourself a break girl (this is one of those do as i say not as I do moments...LOL) I need to not be so hard on myself too. As far as the weight gain or lack of loss...sure seems like a lot of us are sort of stuck on a plateau or very slow loss right now...is it getting near that TOM or have you been eating salty stuff...could explain the gain in water weight...I seriously doubt you have actually eaten enough to gain the weight in fat. I have heard some people say actually up-ing your protein through shakes or whatever helps jump start the losing again...you might play with that. Take care and be good to yourself! Shanna

Sue- Okay, so I really feel like we've had a little black rain cloud on board here for the past month. I mean it! If you've been reading, a lot of us have been plateaued, stuck, or gaining since Christmas! Does it ever SUCK! But, I'm hoping this entire winter season just faaaaaaaaades away and we all have this cloud of sadness and not losing lifted. We deserve it, damnit! It sounds like you are doing everything "right"--- and maybe it's just time for your body to readjust? Read Rondas' post from this morning, her theory on plateaus... it makes sense. I feel your pain, because I'm inching closer to that magical one-year mark, and reality is setting in, that I'm not going to reach "goal" like I hoped. I look back at the weeks of losing 2-3-4 or more lbs and just hope to see a few ounces go now! I keep reminding myself.. it takes 3500 calories to lose a pound of body weight. And, when our bodies are working with less calories, they don't burn fat as well, and may actually gain weight easier because the body "thinks" it needs to grab on and hold any and all carbohydrates it gets into the bloodstream and convert them into fat cells. ARGH! I wish you well.... and we're all in this boat together, grab an oar, and float with us! beth Happy Valentines' Day! HW- 313 SW- 298 CW- 154 GW- 130 http://meltingmama.blogspot.com/ - Updated daily

Hi Sue! I'm so sorry that you've joined the rest of us on our little plateau trip! Something will change soon, I just know it. Try increasing the excercise to 4 times a week 45 min. each time. Increase the water intake to 96 oz and the protein to 80-100g. For some people, just changing things up a bit helps kick it back into gear. I'm experiencing a 4 week plateau/gain myself so I'm right there with you frustration-wise. We can't give up now, though. Not when it's about to break! I'm with Beth, grab and oar and hang on........ It is so great to have you guys to come to and talk these things out. It comforts me to know I'm not the only one going through each new phase I find myself in. Ronda 297/286/195/170 Ronda

Hey Sue, Sorry you are a bit on the edge. I think we can all relate. It seems many of u**** a plateau right around 9 months. My suggestion. Get at least one more cardio day in and up your water to at least 80oz. Fat is ported out of your body through water. You need to hydrate to lose! Also, try, try, try not to get too obsessed with where you are going, and focus more on how far you have come! Postive thoughs leads to positive results! Rachel

I think we all understand how your feeling. About 2 months ago, I was very emotional and snappy at everyone. I couldnt take it, so I asked my doctor to put me on Wellbutrin for a while. I am feeling sooooo much better these days. The plateaus still suck royally, but I deal with them. I am at goal, but keep losing and gaining the same 2 pounds over and over and over. Keep your head up. You have done awesome so far and u will keep doing awesome. My only thing is I still have no sex drive. My poor husband takes it so personal, but it isnt him. I just dont care to have sex anymore. I dont know what my problem is. I am only 33. My sex life better not be over yet LOL

I've been having a period for 3 weeks, so obviously my hormones are still way out of wack. When I go to the doctor I'm going to have them checked. Hang in there. Dianne