Quit my job after 11 years.

Hello all, I just needed a little support. I am anxious about going back to my job tomorrow after giving my job notice on Friday- that I will be leaving in a couple of weeks. Since my surgery my job of 11 years has become unbearable. Women that I thought were my friends have had a problem with me since I have lost weight and have said awful things behind my back. I have an ulcer now and came to the conclusion that I need to find a better environment to work. I was just wondering if anyone else has had problems with co-workers and friends since losing weight. Thanks for any advice.

Hi Terrie, sorry to hear you have met with oposition at work, everyones situation is different. I really dont have an answer other than the info that we havea sacramento support group that meets once a week, if your interested let me know. There are others experiencing similar things as you are. Annette

((Terrie)) That's awful that you've been treated poorly by co-workers you've known so long! I don't have much advice, since I've not been employed for so long, I couldn't deal with "women drama" in the workplace- YUCK !! Perhaps they are JEALOUS of your newfound hottie ?? As for other people--- I have been lucky so far--- not an ounce of problems with anyone... those around me have watched me deal with gaining/losing weight for so long that this is just a part of life for me... it was bound to happen eventually (losing all the weight) It would have happened WITH or WITHOUT surgery, so they've got to DEAL with it. Right? -beth 313.298.156-160.130

Hi Terrie, while I do feel bad for you...I give you TONS of credit for not taking it....you have not only changed your weight BUT your lifestyle. Best wishes with YOUR decision....I bet that after the dust settles, you will be far happpier ...and of course, thinner. LOL I guess the BEST scenerio is that in spite of their crap, you get another job you like, with nice people, you get thinner and healthier AND you never look back on those fools...succeeding in spite of them would be VERY cool. I have had a MUCH smaller issue with some folks....everyone telling me that I am getting too thin and asking if I am still loosing....I think folks are afraid that the "fat" girl is going to be thinner than they are....I still want to loose another 37 lbs...so NO I am not done. also, a LOT of women in my life are now on some serious diets....99.9% of them do NOT know I had surgery....I just keep losing the weight.... sometimes I have to bite my lip to keep from laughing...the chair for the "fat" girl is now empty and no one wants it....lots of folks are playing musical chairs trying not to be there very long. Best wishes to you....and get that ulcer under control....you obviously are a strong person!! RAE

Terrie, So glad you feel empowered enough to take matters in your own hands and get out of that "toxic" situation! You will much healthier mentally for it. Just remember when you are looking for another job, working with women can be a very risky proposition. You go girl! Ronda

Terrie, I too recently quit my job were I had worked for 15 years. To get a better job at the VA. I had been unhappy at my job for years but never had the confidence in myself to do anything about it. I believe loosing weight gave me the confidence to pursue a new career. I'm sure new doors will open for you. Hang in there. Dianne

Terri, You need to do what is right for you. To make you feel any better I am getting my employer notice tommorow. I work for a bank that has become unbearable. Everyone is leaving and new people are comming in that dont have any training. I am finally doing something for myself, today at 200 I am going to meet with a counsler about going to cosmetology school, I have always wanted to be a hair dresser and now that my job finally gave me a reason to leave I am taking it! Look up, look at it as a new step for a new you!!!! Just know you arent the only one!!! TAKE CARE!!! Katie

I really appreciate all of your works of encouragment. I have to say Monday went better than I thought it would and I am so relieved with my decision to move on. I know that something better will come. I just can't believe I put up with it for so long. The weight loss has helped me become a more confident person thats for sure. It is so funny that so many things have improved besides the health issues. Thanks again. Terrie