Blues?

Hello everyone As I'm getting close to my 6 month anniversary I still find myself feeling very down at times. I'm happy about the weight I've lost, I just feel so emotional at times. Was wondering if there are others around the same time frame as myself who are still finding that they have the blues? I don't know if it's because I don't have much emotional support here where I live or what. Lulu -123

Hi Lulu, I logged on today for some emotional support myself. I am feeling a bit blue lately and not sure why. I have lost about 65 lbs and physically feel good...so???? I don't know. By the way, I have been meaning to ask EVERYONE...this seems so strange to me but although I know that I have lost a lot of weight and MUST look different/better , I REALLY DON'T feel like I look any different....does anyone else feel that way??? Congrats on your super weight loss Lulu, that is wonderful!!!!! And keep your chin up, and remember all of the emotion support you could ever need is available right here on this website , also feel free to email me at [email protected] (and mention : weight loss or something in the "subject" box so I don't delete it by accident with all of my junk mail. Hey...I feel better already!!! Thanks for writing in. Michele

Hi Lulu, Here's where the "Fun" starts. We're now leaving the trauma state of a recent surgery. Our tool is becoming an old hat as far as eating and what not. I don't know about you, but for me my Fat provided me with a tool equally as powerful as my RNY. My fat protected me in many real, and a few imaginary, ways. It kept people at distance from me. It kept me at a distance from myself and my own shortcomings. It was a comforting cocoon that I chose to wrap myself in when I felt unsafe. Further, my relationship with food was an additional comfort. When I was upset I would call my friend Food, and she'd make me feel numb (which was my version of "better" at that time). My friend Food doesn't return my calls anymore. She doesn't like me or help me the way she used to. Letting go of the weight means walking out of denial and into reality - not everything here is what I had wanted to believe it was. And I get information that is uncomfortable about "the real world" just about every day. My therapy and my support groups, just like when I was 6 days out, are now NON-NEGOTIABLE - I need them and have been seeking additional online support as well. Further - don't forget the unbelieveable power of estrogen - when we're losing fat we are getting major washes of estrogen. You could be losing fat right now too. Take the blues seriously - be aggressive in treating it - therapy, support group, using your network of friends, and if you need it - medication. Know that people you don't even know are thinking of you and wishing you well, ~Lara

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Lulu}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Did you have a tendency to depression previous to surgery? I know that many of us have had issues with depression/anxiety as overweight people, it's almost like it's hand in hand with the weight issues. Letting go of the "fat" is like letting go of a lot of security blankets, and allowing yourself to become something new. It's scary, isn't it? Not only that, but now that we don't have the "tool" of overeating to help quell feelings of sadness or boredom, we're in need of new things to fill our time... I'm still seeking those things... Have you started exercising yet? Do you have any hobbies that might have fallen by the wayside that you could pick up again? Do you have a support group at your hospital? I just started going to mine, although it's an hours drive, I am so happy I made the effort. Feel free to email anytime! Beth

What a great post. I haven't been depressed exactly, but very emotional and moody (crabby). I think some of it definetly has to do with the hormonal changes as my period is still out of wack. But I could totally relate to everything Lara said as well. I did start going to therapy again. Having other people here that are going through the same thing really helps. Dianne

It does help... take care... Beth