New Here...Please help me

I'll give you the short version: I've been struggling with my weight for 25 years (I will be 35 in October). I am in the process of getting with a psychologist to see why I feel the need to stuff myself for every emotion I feel...happy, sad, depressed, stressed, etc... I am tired of the fight. I am tired of the struggle. I am tired of the "you're beautiful the way you are" dribble from famliy, friends and my well meaning DH. I'm tired of my youngest DS (7) asking me when I'm going to have my baby...I'm NOT PREGNANT! I have little to non existant self esteem and I'd rather be dead than gain once more ounce...so there it is... I weighed was 165 in 7th grade and have gained steadily since then. I've tried every weight loss program known to man and have yet to be successful in keeping it off. I am now up to 215-220. I am barely 5' 5". My PCP says my BMI is within the range for surgery. She refered me to Dr. Omalley in Rochester and the gate-keeper who answered the phone basically told me that I am not heavy enough to qualify for surgery, yet another doc out of buffalo is more than willing to consult with me...he of course is out of area for my insurance. I am going to a seminar in Rochester for Dr. DiBenedetto on Thursday... Does anyone have any thoughts, suggestions, comments anything? Ifeel so defeated, lost and worn out from the fight and it hasn't even begun yet...

Honey, if you were in Oklahoma I could get you hooked up with a great surgeon and support group. I know how you feel. I was 333 pounds before my surgery at 5 '6". I was worn out, felt broken down and old. My 16 year old son's arms wouldn't wrap around me when he hugged me. My insurance turned me down. We went private pay with Capital One and I had surgery in October. Have lost 100 pounds and son's arms wrap around me. He said, "Mom! My arms reach all the way around you now!" I now weigh 230 pounds. I'm in your weight range and feel very, very good. I wish I were there to give you a virtual hug. The only thing I could suggest would be to attend a support group given by your chosen clinic. Remember: this too shall pass.

I just had my gastric bypass on March 12 2008.I game home yesterday.I was feeling pretty good until Mid night.I have a very bad dairriah and Cramps.I feel so full.I can't even drink my ounce of water I push myself to do so.I have nasua as well and dizzy.Is that normal? and if it is how long does it last? Thank you