Nerves and All That

Rita, you are WISE. I really hate the idea of not talking with this guy, but you know, if it means I won't have a mister negativity in my world. So be it. I'm looking forward to seeing all of us change! Whoo hoo!

Hi, I know exactly how you feel.I got my surgery date yesterday. March 12th. I am very excited and nervous also. I try to keep the what if's out of my mind and I start thinking about how much better I am going to feel, and the better quality of life I am going to have. I am actually going to be able to play with my children and not give out of breathe, and this makes me so happy, and tell everyone - my children are the reason I am doing this - so I can be with them for a longtime!!!!!!!

Hi There! I am almost 4 years post-op, I had my surgery March 31, 2004. I did write letters to my children, they were little at the time, 7 years old and 3 years old. Did that mean that I did not have complete faith in my doctor NO, I never realyl considered the fact that I would die, but I wanted them to have my thoughts in my hand for when they needed it. It was more a time for me to reflect on what I wanted them to REALLY know, about WHY I had the surgery, what my expectations were and some other things that I really was not able to tell them at 7 and 3. My son is now 11 and a few months ago he asked to see my scar again and so I showed him and he started to cry asking why I had to have surgery?? why I just didn't go to the gym and work out, evidently he saw something on tv about WLS patients having complications or somethinga guy here in town died a few years ago and the case was just settled. I talked to him and then I gave him the letter to read, he read it and it really seemed to help, he had a few more questions but then was a bit better, he worries a lot. "momma did you take your vitamins?" that said I will tell you that after 4 years the only complication I have is that I have not completely dealt with my stress eating and when my mom got sick I completely reverted to OH MY GOD...stress======EAT!!! and gained back some weight about 30 pounds...now my friends are saying things like you look better a *****ubbier!@@ but they WERE saying before you are tooo thin so ...go figure...I want to be back in my size 10 pants and I will get there. I don't say any of this to frighten you because I really and truly beieve I got my health and my life back after having this surgery. But please make sure to deal wit hyour food demons! And TRULY deal with them not just think they are gone because food is not your life anymore right after surgery! My sister had weightloss surgery 4 1/2 years ago and has not gained back any of her weight at all but she traded a food addiction for a bizarre eating pattern and an extreme exercise addiction. She didn't take care of her food demons either in fact she refuses to even talk about food, or eating...see what I mean DEAL WITH YOUR FOOD ISSUES start now, keep at it! It is a wild ride but not one I would change at all! I hope this has been some kind of help and not the ramblings of a sleepy momma! Hugs to you all! nic

My surgery is March 3. I keep dreaming that the doctor is going to reject me on the operating table. This thought consumes me. I think it's wanting something so badly and at the same time subconsciously sabotaging myself.. kind of a defense mechanism to force me to think about how I would feel if something happened that cancelled postponed my surgery. The bottom line is... I'm THINKING TOO MUCH! Anyway the dreams are unfounded. Other than being morbidly obese, I'm otherwise healthy. I guess I just won't believe it until it happens. Yet I still "X" the days off the calendar.... My poor fiance'. He's along for the ride whether he wants to be or not. He must really love me because I'm a pain in my own a$$ !!

janice...all good points....