Cooking and not eating..Is it possible??

I am so excited and nervous at the same time! I can't wait to be on the losing side. I cooked a huge meal for my family 2 nights ago, and that was really rough. I made bbq ribs---(my fave), and spanish rice, and I included a very special salad that I could eat too! I find that if I include something in there for me, it's not all that bad. It is hard to not eat when you cook alot. I promised myself I will not stop cooking for my family just because I cannot over eat anymore. Well the real test begins when I get home....right? Has anyone else out here had the same dilemma? Cooking for the family, but not eating the food?

I just had my band surgery last Tuesday, and as a single mom, I am the one still doing the cooking for my son. Honestly, it hasn't really been an issue. I make him his dinner and then sit down and sip my liquids. I look at it this way... when I am back on solid foods, I will be able to eat dinner with him, so this is only a temporary situation.

Hi, Joanne. I had the lap band surgery the day before you (the 19th) and am curious how you are doing. Today is the first day that I have really felt back to normal. I was surprised how sore I was. I have three sons (ages 10, 8 and 3) so I can empathize with you. I've been making really easy meals for them, and then like you, sitting down and sipping liquids. Luckily I've been feeling a little quesy so I haven't been too tempted to eat real food. I'm a little jealous seeing all of the weight coming off so fast from the RNY folks. I's just so glad I had my surgery last week. It was warm here today, and I'm motivated to wear shorts this summer! maybe even a swimsuit! Best of luck. Sarah

Hi Sarah- Like you, I was very sore. Today was the first day I woke up and didn't have to hold onto something to get out of bed. I haven't really been feeling queasy, but I have had awful gas pains, so that has really killed any desire I've had to eat. Plus, I am so bound and determined to make this work. I was very good about following my pre-op diet starting 2 weeks before surgery, so between that and the time since my surgery last Tuesday, I am already down 20 pounds. I feel really good about that! As for the RNY folks, I know it's hard to watch their rapid weight loss. That was one thing I considered when I was trying to decide between the band and RNY. There were a couple of reasons I decided on the band (aside from the less invasive procedure). Here they are. Maybe they will help you not feel so green with envy. :-p 1. RNY is a malabsorptive procedure rather than just restrictive. So while some of the calories eaten are not absorbed, there is a greater risk of nutrient deficiencies. 2. RNY gives you a roughly 18-month window of opportunity. After that the body begins to adapt. Weight loss at that point is just like for non-WLS folks. I have a friend who had RNY and lost 147 pounds in 18 months. However, she didn't completely overhaul her eating habits and has gained about 50 pounds back in the last 13 months. She's struggling horribly right now. 3. Our bands will be manageable for the long term. Through fills, we will have a tool that works for us the rest of our lives. Remember that those who chose RNY did so because it was best for them. We chose the band because it was best for us. Embrace the tool you have now and use it to its fullest! :-) Keep in touch, Joanne

Here there and congrats! I had my RNY last Tuesday and will be the one doing cooking form time to time. I used to do all of the cooking but then told hubby had to do more after my surgery just so I wouldn't be as tempted. Honestly though, the temptation just isn't there. Especially right after surgeyr you are too tired and doped up to do it anyway and then you know that you can't eat or you will hurt yourself if you do it before your tummy heals. There is a bit of will-power involved but for me it was just a fact that I don't eat what they do now. In the next few months I am going to try and incorporate foods that I can eat in the menu so that I can have at least some of what they eat also. Other times we'll just eat seperately but hopefully not most meals. You can still enjoy cooking but just can't lick the spoon like you used to because you won't even want to. Make sense? Hope that helps and good luck Monday! Sherry

Thanks for that advice, My big day is tomorrow, can't wait to be a loser!

cathy------what kind of salad could you eat! I really miss salad.