I don't know you and only accidentally ended up on this board.  I hope that I can help you.  If I can figure out how to sign this anonymously I will, if not, it really doesn't matter.  I went through similar situations, but I did not cheat on my husband.  Not trying to sound morally superior here, I just didn't.  I am not being judgmental at all.  I am a well trained , seasoned psychiatric professional and I think you need to see someone to help you overcome these feelings.  You feel giddy and pretty for the first time.  I know.  People are telling you that you look great and you like it.  It feels like a real thrill and a high.  It will not last.  You are tying your self esteem to your looks as much as you did before you lost weight.  Being heavy makes you feel sad and hurt.  You feel vindicated that you really were a good and attractive person the whole time you were fat and now you have the proof.  The fact of the matter is the lowlife *******s that wouldn't look at you twice when you were heavy are now panting down your neck.  Trust me I've been there.  I have gained back some weight and am now taking it off again, but I was you.  Guys I worked with who had made snide remarks behind my back were now trying to get me in the sack.  Stop and think, honey.  Please, if your relationship is one you want to save then you need to step up.  Never forget that your husband chose you when you didn't feel worthy.  It is unfair to both of you to destroy your lives for these highs.  You need to find another outlet.  On the other hand, are you truly happy?  You need to decide if your marriage was just you settling because you could,'NT do better .  If so, you maybe you're trying unconsciously to sabotage your marriage so that you will find a way out.  If after soul searching this is the case, it is only fair to both of you to end it and find a happier life.  One way or the other, you need to find someone to talk to.  A therapist, a friend, or clergy.  Just find help.  I hope this is useful,  Good luck, I am saying a little prayer for you now.  I decided that my family was worth more than the high I got from flirting.  I will never regret that decision.  You; however, need to do what is best for you.

Happy Thanksgiving Marchers....
hope you are having a great day...

Jannine

Hi Jannine,

I haven't posted on here in forever, but I'm curious, if you don't mind sharing...did your insurance cover your TT? I'd like to have one soon, too.

Thanks and hope you have a speedy recovery!

Katie

Geesh, I hardley check on this board, but I should to check up on fellow Marchers.  Hope everything went well, check in when you can.
I will be praying for you til then.

Hi Maria, Thanks for the update info, I too have done ok keeping the weight off I was down to 110 after a blockage that almost killed me, and I too have a bad problem with being anemic, right now I trying to take in iron though pills but they are talking infusions, I have had 2 blood transfusions but I too have been bad with taking my vitamins, but now that my levels are so bad so I'm taking them again, I'm now drinking my water and I'm trying to take the protien shakes again. I'm at 141 right now which is the highest I have ever been since my rny, but my body seems to like this weight, I liked 125-130 but I'm not going to go crazy trying to get back there. I'll keep you updated too, it help me to know what others go though too.



Thanks Jackie