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Thanks for the encouraging words Rick... Its getting to be a little more than just the blues though... it's really not anything I care to talk about on the public forum.. I dunno, things are bad.

Darlene, You have done an incredible job!! It breaks my heart to hear you sound so down when you have soooo much to be proud of. I think you are also very homesick!! I LURK all the time and rarely write anything but I had to respond to your short note. 168 pounds is great. You and I where at the same weight a while back and you have passed me by!! Im at 175 finally after being stuck at 179 for months and months. So the weight is still coming off your skinny ass body!! You look great. You should feel good that you are being noticed by MEN. I only realize now how much I was IGNORED by everyone when I was 306 lbs. Its nice to be noticed and not invisable anymore. It is really hard to deal with this....I feel the same way. Just dont dwell on it, LOOK AT ALL THE WEIGHT YOU HAVE LOST!! Its always depressing coming home from a great vacation. I travel alot, so I know. Coming home to laundry, dirty dishes, dirty toilets....its the pits after a vacation of no chores. It will get better. CHIN UP, you have done great JoAnn

I found a really nice woman living in our house -named Danni when I started anti depressants last month. my husband likes her too and so does my little one. just ask your reg doc to give you something - let them know if you are still trying to get pg so they can give you something that you will not have to come off of. hugs and prayers sweetie danni

I'm still around lurking Highest weight: 288 Weight at surgery: 254? Current weight: 160 (2 lbs. UP from my low of 158) Total loss: 128? BMI now: 24.9 ? top of normal range... I feel like a failure lately. I have stayed between 158-161 since last December, so 8 months of the same weight... I've accepted that this is where I'm stopping. But it seems like I should have lost more during this process, and I feel like I jeopardized myself long ago by eating more carbs. I guess I'm undecided about either A) stay at this weight and maintain for life, or B) lose 10 more pounds... part of me is happy where I'm at, and the other part of me feels like I *should* have lost more, that I *should* be around 140-150 range... I'm 5'8" btw. I tell myself that maybe I should stay where I'm at because I don't want my skin to hang much more than it already is Oh, and if anyone has myspace, add me as your friend: www.myspace.com/puggoddess

Rebecca, You are anything but a failure. You have done great. Try to think back to when you started this journey. You would have been thrilled to be where you are today. If you are like me you probably didn't even think it was possible. Sometimes it is hard to be happy with where we are. I tell myself if I only lose 6 more pounds I would weigh half of when I started. I also have to realize that I weigh less then I have for more then 30 years. I am so thilled to be where I am. Two years ago I told myself if I didn't do something to lose weigh I would be dead in five years. Now I feel like I could live forever, but more importantly I feel like I have more life in me (I hope that makes sense). I also know that it's hard to move to a new place. The people you meet didn't know the old you so that don't know what you have accomplished and how far you have come. You have the chance to be a new person and you can be anyone you want to be. That may seen real scarry. I know it would be to me. You are a bright, beautiful women and now is the time to shine with nothing holding you back and certainly not gravity holding you down. Go out into the world with your head held high and when you smile the whole world smiles with you. Take care, Rick

Thank you for your encouraging words, Rick

Rebecca, I think you've done incredibly well! We're about the same height and I'm no where near 160. The charts I've looked at say that an ideal weight for someone at our height is 159. I'd say you're right on the money! Congratulations! Hugs, Stephanie

128lb loss is incredible Rebecca, be proud of that! I know what you mean about going back to carbs and jeopardizing yourself, about 8 months post op I started chewing gum to help pass the time waiting to drink after meals. In doing that my sweet tooth came back. Now after a meal, I get thoughts of a sweet treat and feel like I want it more and more your current weight sounds great for your height, you've done so good Rebecca, think of your positives and enjoy your success

Ok, you guys are right, I'm being stupid to be so hard on myself. I'm going to stop doing that and be happy where I'm at. Thank you! *hugs*

I'm around. I post on the WDYET post but haven't had much to add to anything else. I'm so stuck at 207 and have been for months. Yup, I'm still classified as obese. And, I do love that. I'm trying to learn to accept myself where I am instead of focusing on that elusive 199 that may never arrive. It's tough. So, I'm struggling right along with everyone else. And, I'm very envious of those who are so close to or have achieved their goal weight. I'm also extremely proud of everyone! Hugs, Stephanie