Husband's company dinner tonight

Oh Lordy.. Tonight was the annual holiday party for my husband's work. Last year I didn't even go because I was so big and embarrassed and, well you know. The summer before last I went to a company picnic and met a few of his co-workers so they'd seen me. Well, tonight was SO embarrassing. I think it was worse than if I would have gone last year fat. Everybody who talked to me (most of whom I had no idea who they were) kept saying how they're shocked I'm not huge anymore or his boss said "Lauren, wow. The weight!" and walked away. Then as we were leaving, one lady who I chit chatted with through dinner says to me "See, you can have a bite or two of cake and not eat the whole thing." She said that!!! We almost had a throw-down, I swear. These are civilized, educated people and they speak this way! The ignorant assumptions were astounding to me. Never once have I eaten a whole cake. Never once have I eaten 1/4 of a cake! I don't even want to go to the picnic this summer and I'm sure Tom won't understand why. I felt like a circus freak on parade and all that I wanted was to enjoy a quiet evening with my husband and other adults. Thanks for letting me blow off steam. He just doesn't get it! He thinks that since the comments were "positive" (like, you're not as huge as you used to be) that I should feel good.

Sorry that happened to you. I think you should go to the picnic only to show off how hot you will look this summer---just rub it in their faces. I actually feel for you. I started a new job this past Dec. so no one thee knows anything about my surgery all they this is that I am so sort of health nut who tracks everything that goes in my mouth. When I go visit some of my friends at my old job I get comments from some people (who I really never liked--oh my you look so skinny or I get oh my I can not beleive how much weight you have lost or you really look so much better now that you have lost weight--gee thanks!!! Sometimes I really want to say something right back but then I remember my old saying....what goes around comes around so I think to myself why bother they would not get it anyway. Do not let a few stupid, ignorant people ruin a nice time. Keep up the awesome job you have done.

You're right. If anyone is crass enough to think these things, much less say them, they just don't get it. Thanks MJ.

Im sorry Lu Lu!!! Im sure they meant things as a compliment... some people just don't know how to do that effectively..... You are so gorgeous, I wouldn't worry about it!!

Oh Darlene, you make me blush. There was this guy sitting at the table next to us and every time I looked over he was staring at me and smiling! He wouldn't even look away when I looked at him. He'd grin wider! It was very strange. There's no telling what his wife puts up with! Lauren

I know exactly how you feel. People just don't understand. I'm glad you noticed my weight loss, but you reminding me just how HUGE you thought I was before does not make me think you are complimenting me. PLUS, I am just trying to have a nice evening and fit in. Don't single me out in front of everyone. I wonder how many of them would like it if you said "OMG! You got a new haircut. I am so glad you got rid of the old one. You looked just awful before. You looked like a haggard bag lady." Think they would take that as a compliment? I agree with Darlene, you are beautiful. I think you should show up at the company picnis and show off hot hot you look. Kathy

hehe.. Well, hot is a long way off for me. I'm still at 275! Your comment about the bag lady cracked me up. It's true!! That's exactly what it feels like! I should think about it between now and then to come up with some zesty one liners.

Ooooh Sweetie, I didn't know your DH worked in an A$$ Factory!!! OMG I don't even know what to say b/c comments like that are so unbelievably ignorant! And the "whole cake" comment?? WTF is wrong with these people?! All they should've said to you is How Wonderful You Look! B/c you do! I've gotten a few of those too, where they go on so much that it's not really about how much you've lost--but about how huge they thought you were before. niiiice. I think you should have a few put 'em in their place comebacks ready for the picnic and definitely go have a smack down! Let them know it's not ok to talk to you like that. Don't let the ignorance of others ruin it for you! (((HUGS))) Sweetie!

Oh yeah, I'm definitely going to show up prepared next time. I was caught off guard this weekend but not again!

((hugs)) sorry you had to experience that Lu Lu! obviously you're more of a person than they will ever be!! the nerve of them for what they said Not only would I go to the company picnic but I'd doll up, head to the salon manicure, pedicure, hair style and arrive with bells on! be proud of what you've accomplished so far and start preparing your wittyness just incase they have comments