9 month

I just had my 9 month check up ( a little late due to the holidays) It went well i weighed in at 233 lb So Ive lost 172 pounds and my surgen was thrilled since Im still losing about 10 pounds a month. his goal for me was to get to 200 pounds when I first began and he thinks I will be there by my 1 year anniversary, so he said maybe we will see about getting you to 180 Anyhow that was on Wedesday... today is friday and I'm not feeling as happy as I was 2 days ago... I went to Curves with my mom this morning and thought I would weigh myself, Well my mom seems to think that it is her business so she was looking over my shoulder and the scale went up a pound. and She went nuts started really loudly saying "Whats wrong Jeani, Your not so great afterall are you" and laughing. and telling everyone in the place "Jeani gained weight" Seriously I felt like I was 400 pounds all over again and I just wanted to stand there and cry. I am nothing but supportive with her when she is shoveling chili cheese fries in her face. I wish I was stong enough to not let her 1 little comment make me feel so bad about myself. and maybe 1 time I won't be so nice when she does that.... anyhow sorry for complaining but I needed to get it out somewhere.. thanks for listening. it was either tell it to you or the big bag of chips my husband left on the counter

It's upsetting that your mother of all people in this world said something so cruel to you. She must feel so sad inside to want to make her child feel horrible too. Don't take what she said to heart. We all know that our weight fluctuates and her words weren't coming from a place of concern or love.

DAYUM! This is your MOM saying this?!?? WOW. You've GOT TO overcome this and not let it get to you--or the haters win. That stuff she said comes from such an ugly, negative place that you have to figure it's all about HER insecurities and really has NOTHING to do with YOU. I have no idea what would possess anyone to say that or act like that--just know you are better than that and truly, in the Big Picture, what she thinks or says--really doesn't matter! I'm sorry she did that, but you are still a BIG success and nothing ANYONE says or does should take that away from you! (((HUGS))) Rebeka

Jeani, What your mom said & did was very cruel and hurtful. Shame on her! I am sorry you had to endure that. Keep in mind that 1 lb is probably not a true gain. Also, if you compare the scale from your docs office to the curves one, it is likely not the same. My docs office scale is 2 lbs lighter than the curves scale. Ignore those chips girl!!! You are great! You are doing great!! And you will contiue to do great!!! Hang in there. Sending ((((HUGS)))) your way!! Robin

Jeani, I'm glad you turned to us instead of the chips! You are doing awesome! Congrats on losing 172 lbs! Like Robin said, I doubt you really gained a lb. Scales vary...sometimes by more than one lb! I weighed 232 at my gallbladder surgeon's office on 1/2/2006. On 1/3/2006 I had to go to his office in another town and that scale said 224. Iknow I didn't lose 8 lbs literally overnight! When I weighed again at the first office this last Monday I weighed 226. The nurse said 'oh you gained two lbs'. But I just dismissed that 224 weigh-in on 1/3/2006 as a fluke. I said, 'no, I actually lost 6 lbs in 6 days'! I'm sorry your mom said those cruel things to you. As the other posters said, it is because of her own insecurities. I don't know anyone who wouldn't have been hurt by those comments. Don't think just because they bothered you that you are not strong. Laura

first let me me say 172 pounds that is AWESOME! I am sorry that your mom was very insensative. Do not let her negative comment get you down. Think how far you have come--you were strong and did not resort to old habits by picking up the bag of chips. You have done such a geat job---keep it up becaue you look wonderful!

That is amazing Jeani, you are doing great!! I surely agree and dont see any reason why you couldnt hit the 180's, honestly in time even lower if that is what you choose. Just keep doing what you've been doing and it will happen. that is an amazing accomplishment, keep it up!! I am really sorry to hear that you mother said that. It is very sad and wish we were all there to give you a hug. I cant even begin to understand what she was thinking or feeling to say what she did. I know its hard, but try not to let it bother you, or discourage you. You are doing great things. I personally would choose not to go to Curves with her anymore. Or at least long enough until she gets the hint. What she said was not right or appropriate and she needs to understand that. I don't think you should have to explain to her your every pound or ounce you fluctuate up or down. If anything she should have been encouraging about it and trying to help you with why you gained. Whether it was muscle gain, water gain or what ever. It happens! My mother a few years ago would say things to me like "You're the biggest person I've ever seen" or "I've never seen anyone as big as you", or "you're getting bigger and bigger".. yes those things sound bad, my mother is great and as twisted as it is, that was her way of trying to encourage me. In her mind she thought that if I believed or thought what she was saying that I would do something about it. Yea right!!! I didnt like her saying those things, but I knew they werent true. Yes I was pretty big, but I know Im not the biggest person there is out there. I had talked with a friend about this and she sai d I should tell my mom not to say these things, that they are not true and they do not help me. So one day when she said it, I stopped her right there and told her that it was not acceptable for her to say those things , that they werent true and Id appreciate it if she didnt. And she stopped. ((((((((((Jeani))))))))))) your doing wonderfully, keep it !

Thank you everyone for the encouragement! My husband Does not know why I let it bother me.. And I told him that it only takes 1 comment to turn on many old memory chips in my brain.... But Im doing better today had a rough day yesterday but better today. And I've decided I will no longer weig myself with her there

Ok this may sound bad...but to hell with what your mom had to say...you've lost 172 pounds HOLLY CRAP!!!! That is AWSOME!!!! heck you've lost me!!! as for the scales you will never in your life get on 2 scales and they weigh the same just not going to happen and 1 pound...please that could have been the gym shoes you had on compared to maybe sandals the day before. The next time she makes a comment like..you're not so great after all...ask her and when did I say I was...I thought I was just human like you striving for a better me and walk away. And you are a better person then me because I would have told her off, told you guys and still eatten the chips! So hats off to you! Mimi