Moderation, can I do it?

I think it sounds like a great idea. You know yourself better than anyone and you and EJ are in a unique situation to be able to keep eachother accountable without overstepping emotional boundaries like an overweight/slim couple would have. If my husband told me not to eat something or questioned me eating something, honestly it would p*ss me off. He's skinny and eats junk and soda all the time and I feel like he doesn't get a vote as to what I put in my mouth. But since both of you are sharing the same lifestyle and struggles, you've got an awesome advantage. You can keep the crap out of your house and set limitations this way and I'm glad you're trying your options to find a middle ground that you both can live with. I wish I could do the same