Someone Help Me here,.. PLEASE!

Okay So, Most people know that I am a slow looser. Normally I try to put on the happy face and try and look at the bright side at least in public. But when you are dealing with this everyday and you really don't have an outlet to get how you feel out you can be a volcano waiting to erupt. I had this happen tonight. I'll try and make a long story short but if you want the full story I posted it on my page I had to journal to feel better. I was basically confronted about my slow weight loss, by someone who had surgery almost 2 months after me and she has lost 128lbs and I am here at 76lbs. She basically laughed at me and told me its my fault that I am only at 76lbs down at 8 months out. This is one of the things she said "no she needs to hear this while she still has time to loose some weight then she might get to the 100lb mark by her year cause me umma be in a size 6 by that time!" I went off really bad and I was at Pappadeaux's restaurant very packed for a Monday night. I am soo embarrassed by my reaction. Did I overreact? What would you have done? I know now that I need some sort of support. Someone to talk to about this Can anyone help me out here? .

Whew....I just read your post on your profile!!!!! Bless your heart...you did go off on her didn't you?!!! I can understand why you did that and you know if you had to do it again you probably wouldn't do the same thing...your emotions were running high and you did what you felt like you had to do. It is unfortunate that your friend (maybe ex-friend now) was so insensitive to you. She had no right to compare you and indicate you were going to be a failure, especially since you have worked so hard and continue to follow the rules and work hard. You know - in life in general - we really shouldn't compare ourselves to other people because God did make us all different! Some people need to thrive on berating others because evidently their lives are lacking something and the only way they cope is comparing what small successes they might have accomplished so it makes someone else not look so good. Who knows why people feel the need to do that...again it must be something lacking in their own lives. Now you know us MARCHers are supportive of each other and we do compare on here at times, but I think we only compare as we all started out this journey together and feel a bond with each other. But I have never seen any of us compare to each other in a negative way, but rather sense a great deal of support for each other. You stand tall and be proud of what you have accomplished and know you are doing all the right things and will continue to be successful in your weight loss journey. Your pictures are proof of the fabulous success you have accomplished. Don't let someone like your friend last night try to get you down...be proud of what you have done so far and just think she must have something missing in her life to cause her to blast you like she did. And the next time maybe you should just smile and turn "the other cheek" when someone trys to bring you down. Hang in there....we love you! Barbara

Barbara,.. Thanks so much. I could not sleep for a few hours thinking of why it affected me like it did, and how my family will react to this. I also mostly wanted to deal with what was going on inside of me that would make me say hurtful things. I was feeling like this inside even though I am doing hard work and following directions. I was already upset by this I just could not beieve someone would be so hurtful. So in my mind she had to hurt just as much as I did, she hurt me so I had to hurt her. That is not me, I don't know what came over me. I will figure out how to handle these feelings of mine and I will be okay. I appreciate your support! Thank You Sooooo much! Steph

UGh, sorry to hear that. Can't believe she was saying those things. I can see how you got upset and just snapped. Its a shame she couldnt be supportive instead of being as you said a ****** about it. I know it must be hard to see 76lbs when others are over 100 lbs, but again you have to believe that everyone loses differently. They do! Its a fact. Using myself as an example. I started a few lbs heavier than you, lost more than you, but sweety, you look a hell of a lot better than I do!! You look hot! As Barb said, look at your pictures, it shows a big difference. If I recall you saying in exercise posts that you do exercise a lot and I read it in your profile. So you do have lots of muscle too. Its sad what has happened. But don't let her stop you or keep you down. You know what you are doing,what you need to do, just keep doing it and things will continue to move along. Go by how you feel and look which is great! *HUGS*

Ruth Ann,.. Soo encouraging! Its just hard when everyone always wants to know how much have you lost. I think I am going to start saying I went from this size tyo this size instead. Its nerve wreaking about the scale. That freakin scale!! DRATZ! But I know what you mean, I should be happy that I can fit into some of the smaller clothes in my closet and I am almost to one of my goals of not being able to fit into anything in there. One more size and that will be it. That's a good thing! I'll have to print your post and remember this when I feel like this again! btw,.. you look great! We just have different builds thats all!

Girl! You did better than me. I would have CUT HER!! She's probably only lost more than you because she malabsorbs more. So I guess her body being able to do something that she doesn't even have control over makes her an expert. And this entitles her to give advice to everyone else. Even if you NEVER got under 200, you are beautiful now! Just look at those photos! Jealousy is probably what got her started on YOU anyway. Not the other way around. I don't even need to know what she looks like to know that she's just plain UGLY inside. Skinny don't fix everything. I will say, attacking the relationship WA****ting below the belt. But she started it. Like I said, she's lucky she didn't get cut! Keep your chin up girl. Sounds to me like she has issues and even if neither one of you had surgery, she would have found something else to pick on you for. Kathy

Kathy!! LOL,.... Your soo sweet, you don't look like you could cut anybody!! lol thats funny! Thanks for bringing a smile to my face. I know that was bad she was just being so smug, I knew it would take the smile off of her face. But I will never ever do anything like that again. I know I did ruin the realtionship but it could have went really bad after I said that. I'm just glad it did not. Thanks Kathy! Steph

Hey girl.. I read your blog.. and I had to giggle. YOU GO GIRL!!! Call you Attack girl.. lol. No anyways... no one should have to defend their journey like that.. and good for you for having the guts to say something. I agree w/ everyone else.. she's ugly on the inside.. and surgery doesn't fix that. *hugs* You look fantastic.. Keep it up!

Thanks a Bunch!! LOL @ Attack Girl!,..

Sweety, you had every right..... You may be losing a little slower... but you jus****ch as 10 years from now your at goal weight, fit and maintaining... and she has gained weight back because of her habits!!! You are doing awesome, do not even let her cruel words bother you! Your beautiful.... and she sounds like she is an idiot. D