I too am having problems with my hubby. As a matter of fact I went down and bought a divorce package. I am so tired of being accused of doing things I don't even think about doing let alone do. I'm tired of being told that I think I'm better now that I'm down 127 lbs than I was before. yes, I am more healthy and I feel better and look better. I have a heck of a lot more self esteem. I could go on and on about the positives that this surgery has done for me. If my husband can't accept me for who I am today, and I am still the same person as before just one with a little more self respect and dignigty, then we can go our seperate ways and maybe one day I will be with someone that truley loves me and appreciates me for who I am. Not for who he wants me to be. I really feel for you that you work 2 jobs and do all the household chores. To me that's just wrong. If I were you I would want to get on with my life without him. You know just because the package looks good don't mean it is good. Give that some thought. Just my opinion, Deborah W.

hi guys, i know i haven't been posting in here much lately, sorry. today is my 10 month anniversary and i feel like crap. aside from my gallbladder surgery at 3 months out, i sailed right through my WLS experience and felt awesome. i was taking taekwondo lessons and everything. but the last month has been hell. it started with pain behind my right shoulderblade, right where my gallbladder pain referred to when i still had it. it took my PCM 2 weeks to figure out that it wasn't a musculoskeletal issue (back x-rays, PT, muscle relaxers) and after an incident when the pain increased when i swallowed a citracal, he decided to send me to my bariatric surgeon. he ordered bloodwork, CT scans, and an EGD. (endoscopy of throat/stomach) bloodwork was OK, CT scan of my chest showed "3 lesions, probably benign" (the nurse told me, she said she didn't have any more details except that i need to have another CT in 2 months to check on them), and the EGD showed a small ulcer on my stoma and some scar tissue in my esophagus. (i had GERD for years pre-op, but none since) they gave me carafate, had me double my dose of prevacid, yet i'm still in pain and it seems to actually be getting worse. thankfully i'm going back to see the gastroenterologist that did the EGD tomorrow. i didn't have any actual stomach pain until AFTER the EGD, just the referred pain in my shoulder and some occasional (but scary) chest pain. now my stomach burns and i have sharp pains all along my midsection just under my ribs on both sides. i feel very tender there as well, and in general i feel weak and tired. i almost passed out in the shower the other day, felt like i couldn't breathe. i was given pain meds by my PCM but those have run out and tylenol doesn't help at all. i wake up sweating any time i sleep. also, while i was averaging about a pound a week for the past few months, i have lost 6 lbs. since this past friday. though it puts me 4 lbs. from my goal, it kinda worries me b/c i haven't lost that much in less than a week since right after my surgery. i have missed a lot of work due to all of this and my employer is now saying that i have to go on short-term disability or i'll lose my job. anys, not so great of an update. michelle 277/154/150

Oh Hope, the symptoms were awful. After meals I got such bad pains in upper right side of abdomen also below the ribcage that radiated into my back under shoulder blade. It was breath taking pain that lasted hours. My job had to call 911 for me. It was then most of the office found out about my WLS. When the paramedics arrived they had to ask about health history, surgeries, etc. Since then everyone has been so supportive to me. Wow, way to go, 130lbs!!!! Lynnd

I can't tell ya how much reading this made me smile! I'm delighted about all the happiness you've found! Isn't is just the greatest to be told you're beautiful!! Kel

I understand what you mean about the clothes being cuter in 6's than in 24's! I can see that it is his problem, not mine-it just kind of makes me angry. I would love him if he got big, or had a surgery that changed his physical self. My husband is considerably younger than me and very handsome-but that is not why I married him. I am not going to move on when he gets older and things start to wrinkle up. Why do they think it is okay to want out because we are smaller? good luck!