Slightly discouraged

I understand feeling that way but remember, we didn't gain all the weight overnight and eventhough we had the surgery, it won't all come off overnight either. My surgeon said that it's good to lose slowly, it's easier on your systems. He told me that I should expect it to take 12 to 13 months to lose all the excess weight. Don't worry, it'll come off. Toni

I've only down 50 since surgery and sometimes get discouraged. But my doctor says that I'm right on the mark as far as rate of loss. I'm a week ahead of you so 46 lbs sounds right to me! You should be very proud of yourself!!! Elena

I just wanted to send some good thoughts your way. Funny how this path has all kinds of unexpected ups and downs. I am having trouble eating anything. Most food in general makes me feel ill. I have lost a fair amount but the really hard way. Thats not fun either. Hang in there- things will turn around for both of us.

Thanks all for your encouraging words. I have been very heavy since 8 years of age. When I got close to 400 lbs, I finally made the decision to end the madness. I lost 30 before surgery and the 46 since, so I should be happy, but I eat so little to be losing so slowly and I have so much more to lose. And of course sometimes I feel I am messing up this chance too. I know better, though, and you all reminded me of that. I am only 10 lbs from going under 300, so I am going to just focus on that goal and be happy with that. Thanks again.

I had surgery the same day as you did. I, too, felt like I wasn't losing enough. However, one of my friends really put it in perspective for me - "You've lost twice what my daughter weighs!" Try picking up a child and carrying him or her up the stairs and remember that you're not carrying that 46 pounds around anymore. I have lost 48 total, but 10 of it was presurgery. It seems really slow compared to some, but we're all losers at our own pace. Keep up the good work and hold your head high -- you're doing great! Cheryl

You know it has really helped me to read your posts... i too have lost slowly... (42 pds since 3/28 and 27 just prior to surgery)... and i have felt GUILT , and shame.. like... "what am i doing wrong" and i think we are so used to failure.... that we feel guilt, like we have failed... or at least i have......... i try to tell myself to imagine myself thin.... its hard... BUT!!!! after all we have just started... and yes others have lost more..... but thats just the way it goes.... lets all hold our head high.... and be proud of how far we have come.... and remember the BEST IS YET TO COME!!!!!

I had my 3 month check up and am down 43 pounds. I thought this amount was way too low but my doctor is thrilled. Says I am right on track. I do water exercises all most 2 hours a day 5 to 6 days a week and was told I may be gaining muscle that weighs more. Muscle weight is good!!! Donna

Hi Cathy! I am right at 45-46 pounds right now, and I had my surgery a couple of weeks before you did. All docs say it is great, but I understand the discouragement you feel completely! I started with 110 or so to lose total at 223 (4'11). I am now at 177-178 (stuck here for the last week +!) I'm sure things will pick up eventually, but hey, as has been said, we are doing great right where we are! Good luck to you through the rest of your journey!

Cathy, I am so glad you posted this message. I had my surgery the day after you and I'm down 44 pounds. I keep reading these posts where people have lost 50-60+ pounds and I was so discouraged. But seeing all the replies to this post makes me realize that we are right on target. I am also hesitant to tell people how much I've lost because I feel like they think I must be messing this up. Ok, whew, we are doing just fine! And the truth is there is no way I would have lost 44 pounds in 3 months without this surgery. I hope you feel encouraged. Theresa