depressed!!!

This sucks!!!! 12 days post op... I don't feel like I lost any weight. And, I miss sinking my teeth into some real food. Maybe this operation was a waste of time and it won't work for me.!!! I just got yelled at from my husband for eating a peice of cheddar cheese. Mr. Smarty says "you're not supposed to eat that".. so I threw it at him! Vivian

Hang in there, Vivian. I am now 8 days post-op and for the first week, there wasn't a day that went by that I didn't regret having the surgery. I'm starting to realize that what I did, I did for me, and nobody else. I will eventually be able to have real food again, but for right now, I am just taking it all in. Do you have a support group or a counselor you can talk to? It helped me that my husband had the surgery 3 weeks before I did. He keeps telling me the feelings are normal and will pass.

Hi Vivian, I know how you feel. I am post op 15 days and on pureed food. I have also tried a little cheddar cheese, it melts in your mouth if you eat it slowly so I don't think it will hurt. I gained weight from all the fluids and swelling in my belly (open RNY) but it is starting to come off now. I am down about ten pounds! I just wish that I didin't feel so weak and tired all the time. I am thankful ny doc didin't requires weeks of liquids or protein drinks like so doc do. (((HUGS))) Jan

I know how hard it is! Especially being under the microscope now. Everyone watches every bite I put into my mouth. I had a little taste of my daughter's birthday cake and my husband freaked. My god, if you think about before when I would have a few pieces and eat the leftovers until they were gone, now a little tiny taste is ok. That makes me feel good and here he is trying to make me feel ashamed! I say if cheddar cheese helps, since it won't hurt you, go for it! I am SO glad you threw it at him! Good for you! Kristey

Yeah...my husband has also turned into the food police. He scrutinizes everything I even think about putting near my mouth. "I don't want you to fail," & "I knew this would be hard for you," blah-blah-blah are things he says. Vivian, good for you for throwing the cheese at your dude! I hope it bonked him in the forehead. >B) Julie

you probably have lost weight and just don't realize it- i didn't feel like i'd lost any weight but when i went to the gyno yesterday their scales said the same thing as mine at home (which i thought were broken, lol) - i've lost 10 lbs. already! my husband is the food police also, i got snappy with him the other day. any time i try something new (on my soft foods list, of course) he's like "are you supposed to be eating that?" and "you're hungry?". he's got some weight to lose too and i've been giving him the same treatment. he had like 4 tacos and a mexican pizza at taco bell yesterday while i very slowly ate my 2 tablespoons of pintos & cheese, he was talking about how stuffed he was on the way out and i just laughed at him. he's military and has a fitness test coming up, so it really irks me when he eats crap (like doughnuts, or half a pizza, or 2 plates of KFC chicken with all the sides) and then whines about how he has to lose weight and then thinks he has to be MY diet police. good luck, i think he'll figure it out and leave you alone if you keep throwing cheese at him. ;)

Hey Vivian, Don't get discouraged! You say you don't FEEL like you have lost any weight, but perhaps you have! Also, remember, if you are starting out a "light weight" you will not lose as fast as others, but you WILL lose! I am just 3 weeks out and there are many days that I say...I can't believe I did this. I am now lactose intolerant (I missed this in the possible side effects) and I LOVE DAIRY! I dump so bad that it puts me in bed for 2 days.....before surgery, I filled my cupboards with pudding, yogurt, cottage cheese and picked an awesome protein drink that was whey based. SO, I have spent the past 3 weeks changing my thought pattern after working so hard to change it from junk food to GOOD DAIRY protein! So....we are on this journey together....now, a species that no one else can understand. Feel free to email me if you want to "talk" or blow off steam or just need some encouragement! And remember the saying..."This to shall pass.." You have caused me to be VERY thankful for my hubby who has been an AWESOME support and is not policing 1 thing that goes into my mouth....He just encourages my excercise! JK

I had the depression issues too, especially during the soft stage. I just wanted some food, and I didn't lose anymore. I thought about how stupid I was to have this done and to think it would work for me, and that I will never be able to have food again the way I used to. And yes, the husband police ... I know he loves me and he wants to help me, but I have a right to learn my own lessons ... if I screw up I will puke (after my fill), and the doctor told me I will test this and eat more then I should ... it is natural. I am getting past the depression now. I'm on normal food, and I do realize I don't eat even close to as much as I used to, even without the first fill. I may not lose fast right now, it kinda sticks around 20 pounds. Marianne