Question/Conflicted

I have a question...I know I've read where some people have written letters to their loved ones prior to surgery, just in case. How many of you have done that? There's a part of me that thinks that I should, but there's a part that doesn't think it will be necessary. Help?! HUGS Kim

Hey Kim, That is funny you bring that up because I never heard of people doing that yet I had planned to write letters to my family. I just want people to know how I feel about them, and that this was my choice and that to me the chance I was taking was worth it to me. My brother died almost 2 years ago from cancer at the age of 23 and I would love to have had a letter from him to look at when I am thinking of him, and also to know his feelings about things. Of course it is your decision, but I know that it is something I want to do. I am just not sure where to put them. I don't want to give them to anyone to hold because I would rather it be something noone knows about. I am trying to think of a place to leave them that my husband won't find them while I am in the hospital but will if something (God forbid) happens. Maybe I will put them in the washing machine before I leave for the hospital , he will never find them there Love, Kelly

I had to laugh when you said your husband wouldn't find them in the washing machine! At first I really thought I wanted to write them, but part of me doesn't want to tempt fate. I also think part of me doesn't want to admit that there could be problems, even though I know there could be. Hugs Kim

I am conflicted right along with you hon! I have been thinking of doing this myself, but don't want to jinx myself, even though my worst fear is (god forbid) dying without being able to say goodbye to my husband children and letting them know how I feel. My husband is a wonderful husband and father, (who WOULD find it in the washing machine...) so I KNOW the boys will be well cared for etc....BUT, is saying my final goodbyes the kiss of death?? Please keep us updated on what you plan to do, I am very interested! Good luck to you with your upcoming surgery!

This is a tough one...I'm still undecided. I am a wife and mother to a 21 month old child. I have taken the time to speak personally to those in my life but agree that a letter to hang on to forever means a lot. I don't feel as worried as the days are getting closer... but that could also change in the next two weeks!! I did go through a lot of emotions since I got a surgery date and find myself at times trying to do the "practical" or "responsible" thing. I went out with my husband a few weeks ago and we made our first Will. This is something I had been meaning to do for a while (since being a new mom) And I guess the surgery gave me a pu**** allowed me to make sure all my wishes are CLEAR!! I will consider leaving letters especially for my beautiful baby boy. Stacey

Hey guys! I wanted to let you all know I've decided not to write the letters. I think I'm just going to talk to my family and friends instead. I truly believe that God is going to bring me through this surgery. I have faith in my surgeon too. He's been doing this for 20+ years and has only lost 2 people due to PE's. I don't plan on being sedentary because I dont want that to happen to me. Thanks for all your help!! HUGS Kim

Hi Kim I didn't write the letters, but I did have a will prepared. Unfortunately, it is something you have to think about when preparing for any type of surgery. GOD willing we won't have a need for any of it!! Praying for an uneventful surgery and a quick recovery for us all! See ya on the "Losing Side" Sherry

Hey Kim I just read your posting, and actually, was wondering about the same things today driving in the car. I don't think my children realize how serious this is, although they are old enough, I just haven't shared with them the "down" side to all of this. I know in the past I have made the statement "I would die to be thin"...but of course never realized it would come to this. I am definitely going to give it some more thought, but I do know that in the next few weeks I am going to give everyone a little more of my time, say a lot of "I love yous" and make some of those long overdue phone calls. Thanks for everyone's posts. It's always nice to see that I am not the only one thinking these thoughts. Take care Sue