Before Christmas someone stole $700 from my Mom(who's recovering from breast cancer)  It was under her mattress, we live in a little no crime area and no one locks their doors.  We were out of town a week later and someone tried to break in my house and damaged my antique hardwood and glass front door.  They did not get in and since we live next door we figured it was a transient thief.  It was all the money Mom had saved up for Christmas, so I loaned her the money.  I was also very busy so my 20 year old nephew came over to help me get ready for Christmas.  We all thought everything was ok.  The day after Christmas we got a call from a man who said he had found one of ou blank SIGNED checks on the ground in the city park.  We went and picked it up and I immediately felt sick.  It was a check from the checkbooks I had gotten in the mail the day my nephew had come to help me.  He was there when I opened the box and I had locked them up immediately.  I went to the box and the top two books were missing.  We called my nephew andI he came over and admitted that he had taken them.  He told me he had stolen $300 dollars and that he had intended to put it back before I would notice.  He started crying and said he was in trouble and that he owed a drug dealer who was going to kill him if he didn't give them the money.   I was so terribly hurt, I confronted him with the fact that I was missing jewelry and that Mom was missing the $700 dollars.  He tried to say he didn't do it at first but then admitted to it.  I demanded that he go to an inpatient 6-8 month drug rehab that night,  I told him that should he leave I would take the check to the police and have him arrested as it had his prints on it.  I also told him that as soon as he gets out of rehab he wilol get a job with direct deposit and put money into a seperate account with my name on it until he has repaid us.  I contacted the bank and found out that he had actually stolen $3500.  I can't afford to lose that money.  It was my savings.  THe bank says it was the job of a pro.  He had hit every branch in the area and had kept each check under $300 so that it would not raise suspicion.  He gave a different story to each teller.  He had stolen a check stub from another book to use to forge the signature.  Tomorrow is the first day he gets visitors and is asking to see me.  I don't know what to do about it.  I am extremely hurt.  THe boy is a sociopath, pure and simple.  I had seen the signs in him since childhood, but was in denial.  His Mom and Dad(my beloved brother the sociopath and his whacko bipolar ex) broke up and ignored him.  I mostly raised him.  If anyone has any helpful insights, I would love to hear them.   I don't know if I am ready to face him.  It was really ugly the last time I saw him.  I told him that I knew he was a sociopath and that his tears had nothing to do with remorse and everything to do with self pity over being caught.  I still have not decided as to whether or not to go.  It's Valentine's Day and the hubby says he wants to go out tomorrow night after he gets off work.   I want to have a good time.