Hey There
I'm still hanging around. Working on healing after the accident and practically living at the Physical Therapy clinic. Finally got the car put back together. Poor car. Headache still screams and back still hates me. I have 3 bulging disks in my neck instead of two as I thought. One of them is pressing on the cord. I wonder what the wold record is for bulging disks becaue this brings me to 6 and I haven't had an MRI done on my mid back yet. I'm getting another one done on my lower back to see if the accident has caused further damage.
My mother fell and broke her humorus last Thursday. It's a bad break and she is incapable of taking care of herself at this point. I've been giving her showers because my house has the best tub for this. I can't help but think how much better off she would be if she weren't 100 pounds over weight right now. She can't reach around to wipe or scratch or put on her blouse. Since my back became so bad, I haven't been cleaning her house and today realized that she hasn't been doing it either. I don't know why I failed to notice this before, but her house really is a health hazard. Her weight has her out of breath just walking from her chair to the bathroom so having the energy to clean isn't there. When I went to get her something to eat while we were at her house today, bags and bags and bags of chips fell out of the cupboards. In spite of her diabetes, boxes of donughts sat on the counters. My mother's Bachelor's degree was in Physical Education. This woman slid into home plate when she was 8 months pregnant with me. She could still do the splits when she was in her 40's. Somewhere she fell into the cycle of food and depression that so many of us have. I don't know what to do for her other than love her and know that her food addiction will kill her. We'll get someone in to clean for her, but I can't keep her from killing herself with Lay's potato chips and Enteman's doughnuts.
Being "down in the back", asmy grandmother used to call it, has given me more time to read these days. I've been reading books by Jodi Picoult lately. I never would have picked up her books, based on the covers... I know, I know, never judge a book by its cover... but a friend got me started on her writing. I've read Change of Heart and am now reading 19 Minutes. She' pretty good if you are so inclined.
OK friends, what's going on in your worlds?
Hugs,
Conne
My mother fell and broke her humorus last Thursday. It's a bad break and she is incapable of taking care of herself at this point. I've been giving her showers because my house has the best tub for this. I can't help but think how much better off she would be if she weren't 100 pounds over weight right now. She can't reach around to wipe or scratch or put on her blouse. Since my back became so bad, I haven't been cleaning her house and today realized that she hasn't been doing it either. I don't know why I failed to notice this before, but her house really is a health hazard. Her weight has her out of breath just walking from her chair to the bathroom so having the energy to clean isn't there. When I went to get her something to eat while we were at her house today, bags and bags and bags of chips fell out of the cupboards. In spite of her diabetes, boxes of donughts sat on the counters. My mother's Bachelor's degree was in Physical Education. This woman slid into home plate when she was 8 months pregnant with me. She could still do the splits when she was in her 40's. Somewhere she fell into the cycle of food and depression that so many of us have. I don't know what to do for her other than love her and know that her food addiction will kill her. We'll get someone in to clean for her, but I can't keep her from killing herself with Lay's potato chips and Enteman's doughnuts.
Being "down in the back", asmy grandmother used to call it, has given me more time to read these days. I've been reading books by Jodi Picoult lately. I never would have picked up her books, based on the covers... I know, I know, never judge a book by its cover... but a friend got me started on her writing. I've read Change of Heart and am now reading 19 Minutes. She' pretty good if you are so inclined.
OK friends, what's going on in your worlds?
Hugs,
Conne
Hey Connie
Good to see you around here in these parts!! I might of missed it, but what accident did you have recently that made your back & neck worse off then it already was?
You are right you can't help your Mom at this point. From past expireience if you say
anything it will make things worse. Take care of cleaning her house & leave it at that for
now. Take care of YOu!!
Lots of gentle hugs
Good to see you around here in these parts!! I might of missed it, but what accident did you have recently that made your back & neck worse off then it already was?
You are right you can't help your Mom at this point. From past expireience if you say
anything it will make things worse. Take care of cleaning her house & leave it at that for
now. Take care of YOu!!
Lots of gentle hugs
Marilyn C (Bearlady)
I know that when you write this you aren' tlooking for people to feel sorry for you your just getting things off of your mind. Just like the rest of us do. Thank god we have this great place to post just exactly what is going through our heads. its a heck of alot cheaper than a shrink!
i feel for your mom. Been there done that with the food.
I bet ya we all can relate. I look back and wonder sometimes how did it get so bad that i put that weight on. Then I remember the desperation and depression and how sometimes when things were really really bad the donuts were the only ones that understood.
so how do i handle bad days now?
my choice of addiction has changed.
I shop.
alright that might not sound that bad right?
wrong.
I'm spending money that with this economy I should be saving!
I'm paying my bills and am NOT using credit cards. I always feel guilty when I buy somthing that I don't really need.
I'm going throught this crazy thing right now where I have to stock up on toilet paper an dpaper towels.
doesn't seem like a bad thing right?
WRONG!
there is only ME in this little condo! Me as in humans. I do not count the cats, dog, or birds as using toilet paper. Just my butt using that. The guy comes over once maybe twice a week. I go to his place once maybe twice a week. so equal amounts of toilet paper are being used. The butt exchange cancels out him coming over and me going over.
I have both bathrooms stocked in their cupboards with extra rolls. I have a very pretty basket by the toilet in one bathroom filled with an additonal 10 rolls. its decorative but is nice when company comes if the roll is empty. HA! like that ever happens! when you live alone you make sure that you do not get stuck with an empty roll!
I also had a case of toilet paper in my den's closet - where I store extra things that I find on sale that I use regularly. Like the additonal 10 bottles of laundry detergent, 8 bottles of dish soap, 10 jars of spagehetti sauce, 10 cans of tuna. I like to keep things in equal numbers. Do I hear OCD anyone???
sooooo i go to stop and shop where they have a sale going on 2 cases of toilet paper on sale for what you would normally pay for one PLUS you get a 2 buck coupon off your next grocery store purchase if you buy them!!!!! Yes I bought 2 cases then when back and bought 2 more the next day.
This is sick!
I can now pass toilet papet out at halloween to the kids in october its alot more health than that candy crap and i bet ya the parentws would be thrilled too.
sorry i went off into a rant.
You and your family as always in my prayers.
i feel for your mom. Been there done that with the food.
I bet ya we all can relate. I look back and wonder sometimes how did it get so bad that i put that weight on. Then I remember the desperation and depression and how sometimes when things were really really bad the donuts were the only ones that understood.
so how do i handle bad days now?
my choice of addiction has changed.
I shop.
alright that might not sound that bad right?
wrong.
I'm spending money that with this economy I should be saving!
I'm paying my bills and am NOT using credit cards. I always feel guilty when I buy somthing that I don't really need.
I'm going throught this crazy thing right now where I have to stock up on toilet paper an dpaper towels.
doesn't seem like a bad thing right?
WRONG!
there is only ME in this little condo! Me as in humans. I do not count the cats, dog, or birds as using toilet paper. Just my butt using that. The guy comes over once maybe twice a week. I go to his place once maybe twice a week. so equal amounts of toilet paper are being used. The butt exchange cancels out him coming over and me going over.
I have both bathrooms stocked in their cupboards with extra rolls. I have a very pretty basket by the toilet in one bathroom filled with an additonal 10 rolls. its decorative but is nice when company comes if the roll is empty. HA! like that ever happens! when you live alone you make sure that you do not get stuck with an empty roll!
I also had a case of toilet paper in my den's closet - where I store extra things that I find on sale that I use regularly. Like the additonal 10 bottles of laundry detergent, 8 bottles of dish soap, 10 jars of spagehetti sauce, 10 cans of tuna. I like to keep things in equal numbers. Do I hear OCD anyone???
sooooo i go to stop and shop where they have a sale going on 2 cases of toilet paper on sale for what you would normally pay for one PLUS you get a 2 buck coupon off your next grocery store purchase if you buy them!!!!! Yes I bought 2 cases then when back and bought 2 more the next day.
This is sick!
I can now pass toilet papet out at halloween to the kids in october its alot more health than that candy crap and i bet ya the parentws would be thrilled too.
sorry i went off into a rant.
You and your family as always in my prayers.
Oh my! You have been busy, Dear Friend, in the worst sense of the word! So sorry about your accident and about your Mom's issues. Know you are loved. I have no advice--I'm done trying to "fix" others when I can't even begin to "fix" myself! I just know that you are tough enough to get through this.
Joy
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