friends weight gain

a good friend of mine called me the other day upset,.
she is 4 years out from surgery and had gained over the last year about 10 to 15 pounds,. she expected that because our doctor had warned us.
what she didn't expect was gaining another 30 and now having to wear clothes she'd swear she'd never wear again and had gotten rid of.
i understand how horrifiing it is to us to have to go buy new ones in those bigger sizes. i worry about the weight as much now as i did back then even more so because it feels like i'm a failure.
plus all of those people who told you it woudl't work are now watching the scale creap up just like you are. but with them they have an evil little smile cause those are the ones who were secretly hoping you'd gain it all back.
well one thing i did learn was i am not a quitter.
so the weight gain is a fight i plan and had planned on fighting for the rest of my life.
right now i'm holding on. i've stayed the same weight for 2 weeks!
while some might look at that as sad that i've not lost I look at it that YES i've not gained!
its been hard with having to eat every 2 hours with my low blood sugar issue to not gain. chooseing the things that are lower in calories but high protein with the right touch of natural sugar to keep my low blood sugar level then when i feel that i'm going into an episode to counter act that with something good that isn't alot of extra calories has been HARD people!
i feel like i'm more involved and obsesive about food then i ever was before!
but 2 weeks without a gain!
I"m back to excersizing at night. Very slow. Lots of baby steps with that. I'mscared to bring on any low blood sugar episodes. But i'm doing it!  tonight is my 2nd yoga class i'm excited about going to that. i was very surprised at how much i enjoyed the first one. And how relaxed it made me!
My friend  is upset as she rightly should be. I feel bad for her. but I kinow she'll use all of the toughness she has to get herself back to were she wanted to be inthe first place.
we all had to fight to get to where we were now we have to fight to get back there. This time we know how hard the fight is going to be. Just becaseu its not as much weight as it had been doesn't mean it isn't harder to lose.
GO TEAM MARCHERS!
thats it for me now gonna go get dressed and go to work!

Hi Pam, thanks for this post. Is your friend someone who had her surgery out of Middlesex the same time we did? My thoughts and prayers are with her. I have an emotional response to so much of what you say here. I am the type of person that must hone in on a problem in order to fix it - and the "weighty" issues that continue to surface this far out of surgery are slippery and complicated so that I can't pin them down, identify the problems and set about a systematic way of solving them! What is a mystery to me is how much more difficult it seems to be able to lose any regained weight; it seems that once those pounds creep back on, it is damned near impossible to reverse the trend. I just recommit every day to get up and start over; if I had a bad day of eating yesterday, it's in the past and by the grace of God, I'm given another day to start fresh with a renewed commitment to healthy eating, healthy moving my body, healthy living. That's where I'm at today. I celebrate your success in not gaining these past two weeks - good for you! And I'd love to take a yoga class, it would be so good for this aging body of mine, especially in terms of my riding... which has become the greatest passion for me. I love my horse, Laela, so much - she inspires me to keep this weight off (cuz I don't want to hurt her when I get on her!) - thanks for this, I am happy to find this inspiring post so early in my day. It will keep me going today. Have a good one, my friend. Maureen

Pammie..I feel for your friend...I know that must be very hard on her...just keep feeling her head with positive thoughts...maybe she can work out with you if she is near you...just a thought.
And for you young lady...you are definatly an inspiration! I think you are doing wonderful and your thinking is right on track AMEN to you....keep it up...you msg was a refreshing one to read.
As for me, up and down 3 lbs lately...I blame it on not really working out too much and maybe a tad of the winter blues...Im thinking of getting into another type of exercise class...though I hated it when I was in that one with my daughter, when class was over I always felt good and I actually could see some results...so for my 5 year resolution its going to be get into some form of fitness class...and keep it going. I will not fail!!

edited....Im thinking of getting back into my martial arts...but really scared if I get a good knock in the gut what will happen...you know since weve been regutted...what do you all think?

That's a good question, Kim! My gut feeling is that you DO have to be extra-careful with protecting that region of your body. You should discuss this with your doctor or surgeon, and I'd be real interested to learn what he/she says! Take care, sweetie. Maureen

so true and I still have alot to loose!!! IT IS  struggle not to gain. Even more of a struggle for me to get this weight off. I'm probably one of the biggest on the March board here. 'sigh'. it will always be a struggle, like you said, for the rest of my life. But as long as we never give up and give in, hopefully we will always stay on top, even if it takes awhile! ((hugs!))

If you are one of the "biggest" on the March Board, it's in terms of the size of your heart... nothing else. We are all in this together, dear one. Maureen

O thanks guys its nice of you all to read and send such nice replys back. we all kick in and help each other. its a good feeling.
its neat cause we don't always post about our weight i've read posts about a lot of things that are not weight related. we are a sounding board for just about everything.
I have a new territory with the paper that I work for. Its a wonderful coastal town and I'm enjoying working there very much. i grew up in the area so its fun to see all these places that i remember some are still there from before! the people are nice and the items they sell! Lord they are well out of my budget!
but i did get the MOST wonderful designer dress today on a clearance rack!!!!! it was a $400 dress that I pain 100 for. Its a clasic that I can wear to weddings or partys or a nice dinner out. I've not had such a nice dress in a long time. What was really cool is that it is made big! so it was ONLY a size medium!!!!! hahaha I think taht sold me on it more than anything else! hahaha No its a very nice pretty dress. well worth the money.
I won' tspend that much on something unless its something that I'm going to use. Granted its not one of those things that I'd wear to work but it is something that will never go out of style and if I wanted to sell it at a consignment shop they'd get more for it than what I paid.
i love clothes always have always will.
any other shoppers out there?