I'VE GOT TO ASK

reenieb
on 10/17/08 5:54 am
RNY on 03/08/04 with
Another theory. Those of us who had WLS but who otherwise have never felt like they had a food addiction or food compulsive disorder, fall into this category: (1) they had less weight to lose - this is hard to measure, but I would say these folks were at or under 250 before surgery; and (2) they are having an easier time keeping the weight off.  Those of us who had WLS and acknowledge that they have had, and still have, a food addiction or food compulsive disorder, fall into this category: (1) they had more weight to lose - these folks were at or over 300 before surgery; and (2) they are having a much harder time keeping the weight off. My question to you, please respond if you are willing and able because I think this will help our group: 1. What did you weigh before surgery; 2. What do you weigh now? 3. Do you feel you have a food addiction or a problem with your relationship with food - I guess the best way to ask: can you control food, or does food control you? I'll go first.

1.  365 pre surgery
2.  149 this a.m.
3.  Absolutely food addicted - food completely controls my thoughts and behavior - always has except for the brief year-and-a-half post-surgery when I lived blissfully free of hunger.

M.
redzz04
on 10/17/08 6:54 am

I'm definitely in your category. Over 3. and totally addicted and its such a weird addiction. Ever have those days that you just HATE food and dont feel like eating. that "i'll never eat again feeling"... i guess comparable to the "I'll never drink again feeling"  that is also part of my vicious cycle as well. when i eat junk for too long and have that one day of UGH. usually i'll do good for a while then the bad sugar consumption thing happens and the cycle starts all over again. nasty thing it is.

 "Never act until you have answered the question 'What happens if I do nothing?'" - Robert Brault
"Love is borne from soul to soul on the wings of words." - Rudolph Steiner  
 Elizabeth M 
 

Margo M.
on 10/17/08 9:00 am, edited 10/17/08 9:02 am - Elyria, OH
can't answer cut and dried cuz i don't fit cut and dried--since i started out with"ONLY" 100-110 pounds to lose one might think that i can control food vs it controlling me....

ok- 233 pre wls 179 now--was down to 150 before michael got so sick (no ! i am NOT making excuses!{are you believing this????} i am an emotional stress eater....always was and still am)--at 13 mos out i had lost 83 pounds and was a "success"--go figure....the plus i that i have not put back ALL of the weight-- do i feel done? no--do i motivate self to do anything about it? no....and i am the ONLY one who can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

yes i am food addicted- i like the flavors, the textures, the act of cooking, the planning. i like the ability to eat...and i suffer low sugar episodes if i don't eat something every two to three hours--also with giving my plasma i have to keep my iron and protein up ...

i do find that i am doing better since i read that last book about food and love and  enmotions..life is hard food is easy--naw! something like that tho!.forget the name right now but i liked the book....

also- i would for almost 26 years come home from somewhere- work  shopping whatever- and eat something....still do....as i was growing up my mother (thinking she needed to be june cleaver! hahahaha) would have breakfast cooked and on the table before i even got in the chair.....and i always ate large portions....

and i really think my surgeon did me no favor by leaving my pouch a bit bigger than some- his thought was that i didn't have so much to lose..well dammit it's too easy for me to eat wayyyyyyy too much....did my stoma strecth- heck if i know--no money to get it checked out!

i was never energetic after surgery and i was never free of hunger--- ya know-i am 54 almost 55 but i would swear that i grew up in the depression--where the cupboards were bare so have to store up !!!! not so but it feels like it!!!!!

sorry- you asked-did i answer any of your question??????

love ya for trying reenie--i don't have an analytical mind so i depend on yours.........

I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White

 

Marilyn C.
on 10/17/08 1:57 pm - Bullhead City, AZ
Margo
Love to see your picture & your smile. Glad you finally got it posted.
We are the same age am 54 & will be 55 in December. I can relate to lots of what you
just said.
Ladybug Marilyn
Margo M.
on 10/17/08 8:49 pm, edited 10/17/08 8:53 pm - Elyria, OH
marilyn...i'm 55 this next january so you aren't much older!!

funny too- you and i both collect bears and ladybugs!!!!!
btw thx for the compliment on my smile-jeanb on OFF said the same thing! hmmmmm....

I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White

 

Marilyn C.
on 10/17/08 1:54 pm - Bullhead City, AZ
Yup, addicted to food & anything related to food. Always have been. Accept for the
2 yrs post-op/
Highest weight 360
Lowest weight 204
Current weight 234 as of this a.m.
Because I have kept 100+ lbs off I am still considered a WLS winner. I don't feel that
since I never got to goal weight of 170.
Until the recent scare I was addicted to all foods again & ate anything I wanted, when
I found out about the diabetis & high blodd pressure & of course the severe kidney
infection had to get serious again. That scared me enough just like before surgery to do
what I had to to get the weight to start dropping again. I cut out the white refined sugar
& white flour. went low carb just eat the good carbs now & have lost 16 lbs of my
regain. Don't let this kid you into thinking I don't splurge on sugar stuff, just don't do it
all the time & limit to once in awhile. I am having to learn to re-eat as so much spikes my blood sugar so have to eat mostly protein which I should have been doing anyways.
Yes there are days I screw up,but I don't beat myself up just go fro a walk & get back
on tract the next day. Don't know if this helps you out Reenie, I think the ones of us that
were over that 300 lbs for sure have a harder time keeping our weight down & off.
Ladybug Marilyn
Marilyn C.
on 10/17/08 2:00 pm - Bullhead City, AZ
I forgot to put my highest weight gain was back to 250 & that is when all the medical
stuff started back. Had to have a scare to get it going in the right direction. & yup
stress had a lot to do with the weight gain, but, still not a good situation.
Ladybug Marilyn
Margo M.
on 10/17/08 8:53 pm - Elyria, OH
marilyn...i'm sorry that you had to have that scare to get yuo jump started-but ya know what? this time maybe you will reach that goal of 170!!! keep yourself moving  (walking etc not movig your household again!!hehe) and take care of you --not worrying about everyone else as you had been--and i think you are on a better path....i believe that stress does terrible things to our eating and you , my dear, have had your share! it's time for bigger and better for you!!!!!

i know that i am working harder at getting myself back on track-trying to be more accountable for what goes in my mouth and trying to get exercising again....

I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White

 

Joan Stonehill
on 10/17/08 10:27 pm - TN
I guess I don't fit the catagory either.  I started out at 248 and was 148 at my lowest.  I knew I couldn't sustain the 148 because, essentially, I was eating nothing.  Today I am 160 and have been for a long time, give or take a few pounds.  My surgeon considers me a 'success' story.  I have to honestly say the reason I ate so much was two fold.  First of all, I had emotional issues.  Secondly, and it seems more importantly, I never knew what it felt like to be full.  I was able to eat non stop.  Bad marriage, money problems, sick kids....all caused me to jump into food.  Although my life isn't prefect, I am mentally in a much better place.  Kids are great, I am with a man who is amazing and loves me to no end, I have my cute little cottage by the beach.  I also love my job.  As I review my eating habits, I do see I have room to make some changes, which is why I want to go back to Weigh****chers.  I also go to the gym a few times a week and that also helps. 

Take care!
Joanie
reenieb
on 10/18/08 4:37 am
RNY on 03/08/04 with
Now this is exactly what I'm talking about! I'm sick to death of these pills, pills, pills - I have an appointment with my doctor next week simply to tell him to take his pills and do not put me on another one for the head, no thanks, no more. I have maintained all along that depression stems much more from LIFE CIR****TANCES than from brain chemistry imbalance. Joan, your post proves this - you went through hell in terms of your life cir****tances (it sounds like) - and you ate your way through those cir****tances to try and cope with them. Then you changed those cir****tances - got out of your bad marriage, took control of your out-of-control kids, found a great job, found a great guy - and now you feel in balance, and you are much better able to cope with life, and you don't need pills, or food, and you don't feel depressed and - well, there's my theory in a nutshell! Hope you're soaking up the sun even as I'm typing this - I'm freezing my gazoobies off! M.
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