Boooo...Im back...sure is quiet here!

Hi everyone Im back from my trip..Had a wonderful time, weather was great, food was good , and even came home with alittle money in my pocket.  Just wish I had stayed away cause I came home to total nightmare! Son got arrested on a misdameaner and at this point not sure what to do anymore, cause he is in violation of probation. And to top that off just found out my very best friend of 40+ years found out she has lung cancer which has spread to her lymphnodes, she is going to start chemo and radiation and is a single mom with two small kids 15 and 9. I tell you Im a strong person but this is killing me, my heart is breaking for both. And damn it I cant stop crying. Oh and another thing daughters car got hit in parking lot by a hit and run driver the a**hole...Argggg Im loosing my mind.Ever just wish you could go to sleep and wake up another day? Sorry for my rambling here just Im hurting and overwhelmed right now. I just got to remind myself one day at a time. I hope everyone is doing ok here...and it is good to be home just wi**** wasnt like this. 

Oh Kimberly, I wish there was a way I could ease your pain and lessen your burden - I'm so sorry. Here's a big hug and know that I care and especially with regards to your son, just remind yourself that you've been the best parent you can be and remind HIM that his life is the product of the choices he is making - no one else is responsible for the way his life is turning out! Tell him you love him no matter what but that you will not be responsible for his lousy choices. Be there for your friend, that's all we can do. AND BE THERE FOR YOURSELF. Rest. Eat well. Take long walks for healing of head and heart. Take care of you. And come here often so that we can take care of you, too. Be well, my friend. Love, Maureen

Oh Kim, so sorry to hear this. When it rains it pours. Hang in there. Hopefully your son will see the light, I totally agree with what Marueen said, we did the best we could, it's up to him now. but it doesn't make us worry any less. Hang in there. So sorry to hear about your friend. The poor kids. My prayers are wtih her. Just give her your support and prayers. Plus a hit and run too! Sheesh. Hope the damage wasn't too bad. People are so ignorant. Honestly. What a world. Big hugs to you Kim! We're here for you.

Elizabeth M

Thank you both I do appreciate your kind words. Im doing ok and I do totally agree with what you both are saying. As for my son he is a big boy now, I have supported him always in the past, and I still will but to a point. Ive always told him if he is right Ill support him 100%, wrong Im there for him, Ill always love him but Ive done everything in my power in the past and now its your turn, I cant do it no more. Ive paid for lawyers, counseling,tuff love, etc you name it...in the past,Im done. Doesnt make it easier believe me, It kills me, cause he is highly gifted and is throwing his life away. He is the type that acts before he thinks, questions everything, and gets caught at every little thing he does. Pot and alcohol teenage junk. And honestly he isnt doing any worse then I did as a kid but he is paying for it BIGTIME! He was doing so good too, completed a semister in college straight A's  and is working full time. I thought he was back on track then BAM something else and he only had till April to be off probation. I swear it never ends. Like you all said I can only at this point pray and tell him I love him, hes a grown man now time to deal with it as an adult.

I spoke with my friend...its soo sad, least she is in good spirits and has the erge to fight this. I not sure she really is aware of all thats involved and the long rode she has if she makes it. Its terrible...it was so hard to talk to her without breaking down. I did tell her Im coming to see her with another friend  and we are all going to go out have a nice lunch and just play catch up. That seemed to cheer her up. She is like my sister, when I got married she was my maid of honor , over my own sister, we were like frick and frack growing up. I just hope the Drs can do something.

And last but not least the car....never ends...in the shop as I type busted fender and tail light...guess I should be very thankful it was parked and daughter wasnt driving and she is safe...THANK -GOD!!! I can replace the car but never my daughter. 

Hi Kim, My name's Kim too!  I was just looking through the message boards and I saw your post.  I am waiting and hoping to have the surgery in Dec.  I am researching and I found this board for people 4 years out.  I wanted to see how people are doing this far out after WLS.  I am sorry for your troubles.  I too have children that don't behave well!  They can be very hard on your eating too if you are an emotional eater!  As far as your friend, there are no words for that one!  Our girlfriends are soooo very important to us.   I will be praying.  In the meantime, be there for her and take extra good care of yourself.  She's gonna need you to be there for her.  Keep coming back to the boards for strength and comfort!  They really help! 
Lots of Hugs!
Kim

Hi Kim....Thank you sooo much , your are a very nice person to write that to me. Im doing alright, just trying to keep busy and my mind off of things.
I see your having surgery in Dec? Good-Luck!! its been nothing but a positive experience for me. Feel welcomed here to ask us anything, we are a good bunch, alittle nuts at times but a nice group. We'de,  Im sure would be happy to answer and share our wls experiences with you. And again Thankyou, hope to see more of you in here!!! 

Kimberly