Question off topic....

I need opinions here....I was on another forum that I go to occasionally....anyway talk was of two women who were messing with a married man from this site and both basically got played and burned. Well everyone was stating their opinions mostly feeling sorry for the women. ME on the other hand basically said you mess with a married man you deserve what you get....OK now Im getting emails from the one lady not too nice but I said dont air your dirty laundrey on a public forum if you dont want all opinions good or bad....was I wrong? I even deleted my post when I was ask too do it....againist my better judgement, but I did. I dont think I was wrong...what do you all think...be honest please...was I out of line

I'm of the opinion that if you post in a public forum, you should expect people to offer opinions. See, just like we are doing here. I guess without knowing the whole story of these two women and their experience with this guy and without knowing what you said, I don't know if you were wrong or not, and again, it would only be my opinion, which is no more valid than anyone else's. Did these women know that the guy was married or did he offer a line of woe or even lie about being married? I'm probably the last person to have a solid opinion about anything because I can almost always see all sides of the issue. I didn't help at all, did I? Reader's Digest Version... I seldom make a judgement call about what people do because I'm far from blameless myself. On the other hand, if you're gonna put your business on the net, expect people to have something to say about it.

No that wasnt much help Connie lol but they did both knew he was married. They said they did. Thats why I expressed my opinion.

The real issue here, Kim, is the public forum point - and you were right to suggest to these women that if they put it out there, they've got to accept reactions from their readers. Lord knows I've gotten myself in plenty of trouble because I freely express my opinions and I live by a pretty high standard of self-imposed principles - so I can be a bit of a bulldog (I'm sure I've been called worse) when expressing my point of view. You made a judgement call based on your personal perspective - you don't believe these women should have been messing around with a married man. While I absolutely agree with you, there are plenty of people who wouldn't care about it and others who would flatly say it's no one's business but the women and the man. So, the question you are looking to have answered seems to me to be: "was I wrong to express my opinion in response to something posted on a public forum?" No, you were not wrong. If on the other hand, you are looking for us to tell you that your opinion is right about these women? Well, my friend, that's not a question of right or wrong - it's about entitlement to individual beliefs and point of view. M.

Thank you Reenie...thats what I meant..it was mentioned publicly..everyone was responding...alot sympathetic towards the women, I just had another opinion... I'm not looking for justification or approval for my opinion ,just wondered if I was in line for giving it. Oh well to each his own Kimberly P.S Good thing I didnt really type all I felt, Ide be banned LOL

Hey, I am not going to say a whole lot here as most of you know I was & still am involved with a married Man. Yes, he is in AZ & haven't seen him since I left, but have spoke to him a couple of times on the phone. I don't beleive they should be airing the stuff on a public forum. I never thought I would get involved with a married Man either, but, it happened. I am not proud of it, but, I also know how I feel about him. If I never see him again that will be my problem to deal with. I will stand behind whatever he chooses to do. He knows where I am & why I left.( had nothing to do with him) So it is in his court at this moment & will let him decide what he wants. I have no plans to be involved in this threesome forever, so he will need to figure out what he wants. Enough said here & probably too much already. Ladybug Marilyn

I forgot to tell you You were not wrong to give your opinion to these people. I know it starts all kinds of stuff going around. It did when I mentioned that I was seing a married Man. But 2 women with this guy & they all seem to know each other wow, I can't even go there with that one. Ladybug Marilyn

Public forum - Public Opinion. Goes hand in hand. You weren't in the wrong. you post something like that for what other reason than to get attention. People have to learn that its not always the answers they want when you post on a public board. Married man - your bound to get burned. Unfortunately. If I was single, I wouldn't chase a married man, but thats only because I would have a huge guard on my heart and would feel guilty, but then even that depends on the situation. The guy sounded like a player if he was dealing with 2 women on the side of his marriage. Total set up to be burned there unfortunately. It all depends on the situation I guess. Sometimes it works out, but majoirty of the time it doesnt and you get hurt. Elizabeth M

Hi Kim, I am from that forum that you posted your opinion.... Your question about if you were right to state your opinion? Well, like everyone says it is a public forum and if you post something you are bound to get hit with every kind of opinions. Opinions are like ******** so everyone has one right? I know one of these ladies for a good lont time and she is a very dear friend of mine. I am not here to defend the entire situation. But the reason why I am responding to you is because the intentions (that those towo ladies agreed) of posting in the public forum was to save the "other" women on OH that was being basically scammed by this guy. He gave a story of woe about his wife.... breaking up, nothing there and so forth..... He tried getting together with one (as a matter of fact the one you pmd with) she told him she couldn't do it because he was married and that very same day she had that conversation with him he messes with the other and goes into a full affair. Yes that forum is for support and I don't really agree with a whole alot of stuff being aired there but that was done for a specific reason. There are other women that he has been pursuing and it was done so that the others would know, and the pig would stop preying on all the other women on that site. The truth of the matter is no one really knows the entire story until you are in their shoes. As for messing around with a married man no it is not the right thing to do. But most men usually have a great big story how the wife is not meeting their needs, doesn't love them, doesn't take care of them, will not talk etc etc etc and sometimes many women fall for that bs sob story. Thank goodness my dear friend was smart enough not pursue it but when she found out that he was messing with the other lady that we know from the board that is when she confronted her and they spoke about the situation and decided to stop him from his preying adventures on alot of the women there. Anyway..... I am not here to pick a fight just to clear up some of it since you really didn't know much about it..... Have a great day.

Oh my...love those secret messages....I agree I dont know the WHOLE story... I only know what she had typed...and like others I stated my opinion...now it may not been what your friend wanted to hear but from what info she decided to vent it was just my opinion never the less. It was NOT a personal attack it was my opinion like everyone elses on the board for the matter. Now when I posted it, it was before she asked for people to remove their post...when I saw that she asked, I removed mine promptly like everyone else. So for that I dont appreciate her emails to me. Now if she cant take the responces good or bad not being the answers she is looking for...dont post. Now in my post I told her I was sorry she was hurt but I also said it was not right that all three were not doing exceptable behavior in so many words in MY OPINION...and if I was the wife well it wouldnt be a nice picture for all involved... Like I said it was my opinion based on the info she decided to air...I just wonder how many others being only a few of us had NEG opinions got a email...bet the sympathetic ones got a thankyou. So in short...Dont air you dirty laudrey if you dont want the responces good or bad.