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I'm looking for honest feedback. I think I may have told you guys that my sister's husband was convicted of child *****graphy last fall. He asked one of his students for nude pictures of herself and later pleaded guilty of the charges filed against him. He and my sister are now going through a nasty custody battle for their 4 small boys. In spite of being found guilty of child *****graphy and classified as a predator, he is fighting for full custody. There's a website that posted the original arrest news article and a blog for people's opinions. http://www.topix.net/forum/city/mundelein-il/T89BN6LVUIB7AC026 Believe it or not, I stayed out of the fray until people (possibly his family judging from the information on some of these posts) started taking shots at my sister. I posted the link to his page on the Illinois State Sexual Offender website. So here are the two things that upset me about this whole blog site... That people have no problem blaming the student and that this has turned into an issue about the divorce. My sister, who was devastated by this whole ordeal and is now losing her home because she was a stay at home mom and can't afford the mortgage on the salary she has now, is now being trashed on this site. I realize that I'm biased in this whole issue, but am I the only one who finds this site disturbing? Please be honest, you won't hurt my feelings if you disagree with me. After the divorce is over and done next month, I'll tell you guys the whole story. This is a link to an article about the sentencing. http://www.dailyherald.com/story/?id=86949 Hugs, Connie

don' t get me started!!!!! my x wasn't into child porn as far as I knew but he was into all the all porn you could imagine. he also was a cheater, liar, hitter, mean to the kids like you would not believe and I won't get into but man! does this stuff make my blood boil! i too was a at home mom. lotta good that job did me! ooooooo i lost everything but you know what? I'm alive and there was a point where i wasn't sure if he was going to get me or not. I'm alive. I lost it all the house the kids all were 17, 18, and 20 just graduated or end of high school. i was able to keep thehouse until the last one graduated then we all were scattered. late teens in this world shouldn't have to find places to live with friends they should be going to college or living at home for the last summer at least until they make the decisions for their lives. especailly when their father makes the rediculous income that he does. my kids are stronger for that. i learned alot. i cried alot. i dint' think i was going to make it. i now own my own home again. came up from the ashes! took many years. over 10 to get to were i am. the ex has such a very big house that now he also has his gf's mother living with them along with all her furniture and theirs. own younger son recently moved in with him too! still hve room to spare! what is amazing to me is that the kids accept all thathe did. that isa kicker. but now after all this time i no longer hate him. i never will trust him but he's just another bad person in the world who got away with things. You know what? I am glad that christy brinkley went public wiht all that she's going through. let people know what that nasty guy did. look at how they are treating her! people are very stupid sometimes. i'm all for giving the benifit of the doubt but geesh! when there is proof use your brains! you sister is in my corner with my prayers and with you for a sister she's got the perfect balance to have her come out on top.

connie..i read all that i could...and i have to say that most of the ppl who wrote on the blog are idiots-just from the comments--anyone can write something in the privacy of their home where no one can see them--just like us! except that we have built up trust over our 4 years together...... my own 1st hubby was into porn-not child thank God...but porn the same and tried to get me in there -that was when our 26 year marriage really fell apart....when i could no longer turn my back on what he was doing....and my kids to this day see him as wonderful..and they will never know the true "him"--there is so much more but i cannot go there. reading all of that ; i was put back to the days of raising my own kids- one of the gym teachers in their school was accused of inappropriate behaviors-i forget the actual charge he faced--but it devastated the community and his family--of course, he was tried thru the media to the hilt and we didn't have myspace and computer blogs etc then.....and i still do not know if he was actually guilty-tho he was found guilty...there was another teacher at that time who exposed himself...he had been part of our cub scout pack....very sad.... .i also am put back to my own high school days- as a senior-well- there was a math/shop teacher there that was hot and he was obliging....and i could have destroyed him-and taken myself down with him--and that was in 1971...ouch..i don't talk about him ever to anyone not even myself.....and i would like to keep it that way.i am not proud of it nor do i know who "started" it....... i think the bottom line needs to be that ppl do not know what goes on behind closed doors in a home and ppl are too quick to judge....i did not see what (your) "family" is doing to trash him -i guess i didn't read far enough--i only know that the children will carry this all of their lives and your sister needs support.... i would hope that she and the kids will be stronger for this as pammie said in her own reply.....and i say a prayer for all involved.

According to what I read, he pleaded guilty...it's not like he said he was innocent the whole time and then was convicted, right? I find the whole thing very disturbing and my thoughts and prayers go to your sister. Why anyone would turn against your sister for this, I don't know. It is a strange situation---first of all, he asked for the pictures. She didn't have to send them. He is sick, no question, but she is just as bad for sending the pictures. Perhaps she set him up? Joanie

ok while I find the whole thing dripping in YUCK... there are two sides to me right now the woman/mom who says you dumb ***** how in the hell can you look at a little girl, I know 17 but still a girl and choose THAT over your children and your wife,if the wife isn't your thing anymore than wait 6 months and divorce the wife and have the girl when she is a grown up... the teacher in me says,,,you dumb ***** how in the hell can you look at a little girl, I know 17 but still a girl and choose THAT over your children and your wife,if the wife isn't your thing anymore than wait 6 months and divorce the wife and have the girl when she is a grown up... gee I guess I am single minded... your sister shouldn't be harrassed by any of this. she did nothing wrong probably his sentence will be like "inappropriate conduct with a minor that you have not control over but something similar" one of my best friends in highschool, her husband was a youth minister and had an "encounter" with a girl from the group. it was shocking because I knew them both but you never really know a person's heart do you?? the comment about how the school should protect their own??? uhm...dumbass??? the school CANONOT support their own when he/she abuses a child...do you wnat him soliciting photos of your child naked??? he deserves to have his certificate revoked and a few other things I can think of... on the other hand I didn't realize your sister was so close to me! if she needs a day at the park with kids have her contact me, we are "normal" @@ and we have no ulterior motives for information! prayers and hugs to them all nic

The guy is guilty. Period. Out of control. Period. He knew what he did was wrong. As an adult, he knew which is why he pled guilty. KEEP IN MIND>>> all those responses you saw were from Kids! Students! Don't forget that. From a 17 year olds standpoint you have to take their responses with a grain of salt. Now if it were adults saying that...it would disturb me, but all those answers were from kids. And if we can remember back when we were 17 and possibly had a crush on one of our male teachers...I can understand (not condone) their idiotic responses. They love to trash fellow teens their age. Typical. Disturbing, but typical. teens think they are adults and wouldn't "SEE" the real picture. Lets face it, there are soooo many stupid men out there that would think hmm... almost 18... almost legal. So the one answer I did see that was supposedly from someone who went to school with the guy didn't hold much water with me. He was wrong. She should get full custody. Period. I'm with you girl... Hang in there! ((Hugs!)) My prayers are with your sis! Darnit to he!! some men really suck. 'sigh' Elizabeth M

Hi Connie- When my dad was in the U.S. Navy and stationed at Glenview Naval Air Station, We lived in Mundeline and I went to that H.S. We didnt live there very long. I think a year if that. My asthma was very bad so the Navy us. We didnt have problems like that when I went to that school. This was back in 81-82, I think.