Mourning M&Ms

Not really. But I am feeling very ashamed and self-conscious at my place of business. The woman with the M&M dispenser just inside her office door has apparently had enough of me and is no longer filling the dispenser. This is a good thing in and of itself, but I KNOW how this woman operates and I KNOW that she has talked very badly about me to other people, including senior administrators. I can't tell you how embarrassed I am - you have to understand that for months now, I have been stealthily making innumerable trips to her office when she's not in there - sometimes other people see me doing it, sometimes I'm alone in the building and just help myself. I have been taking many fistfuls of this stuff many times throughout the day - for months now. It's an absolute miracle that I'm not over 200 lbs and for the life of me I can't understand why I remain in the high 140s. It's been a few days now that the dispenser has sat there, empty. And people are treating me differently - a very subtle undercurrent of - what??? - of pity I suppose, and of distance, as if what I have is contageous. I feel really, really, really bad... M.

Reenie Reenie Reenie... snort' chuckle' giggle' You're a gem. Are you kidding! I think that is so cute you sneaking those M&Ms. DON"T FEEL BAD!!!! You look awesome! You're not gaining weight so they have nothing to look at in regards to that. She's just being ridiculous about her M&Ms... trust that. She's probably jealous because if SHE ate those M&Ms she'd gain! Don't worry... Here in our office we TEAR UP CANDY!!! I guess thats why I think it's cute because we laugh about who's turn it is to bring in the candy. Know what I would do if I were you? Kick that chin up. Bring in your OWN jar... fill it with tons of M&Ms and set it on your desk or wherever and, with a laugh and light nature, tell the others around you this "Hey, I brought in this jar of M&Ms, poor, what's her name, is probably sick of me taking her stash So help yourself..." or something of that nature. Don't make some nasty woman make you feel that way. She sounds mean. Very mean. and coniving if she is talking bad behind your back. Don't worry, if she is doing that...other people know what kind of person she is and are probably thinking "Hmmm I wonder if she's talking about ME too?!" You just keep being the sweet person you are. Besides, If there was someone in here that always ate my candy (and there is) I just refill it and smile. Heck! Thats why we put candy out in the office setting... to SHARE and make someone smile! so please don't let that mean jealous chick make you feel bad. I'm sure plenty of the others were taking M&Ms too when people weren't looking. ((hugs!!!))) Elizabeth M

You are sooooooooooo funny - you crack me UP! I love your idea but I would put my own stash out, tell people it's there for the taking, and then it would be gone in 30 seconds flat - taken by ME. I really have a problem with chocolate, 'lizbet - didn't have it before surgery, I was strictly a bread, pasta, cookies, cake person in my pre-surgery life. Now, if someone could shoot chocolate through my veins, I'd die a happy woman. But you are very funny. Love ya, Maureen

Buy the woman a big bag of M&M's and tell her to hide them from you!! Tell her they are your demon and that , if she will just put them out of sight , it will help you. That should make her and you both feel much better. More than likely you just think everybody is feeling pity for you. Who feels pity for a woman who weighs 140 pounds!! You're a great lady, so don't worry about this. Have a good day! Love ya, Judy

We've had that conversation, Judy. I asked her to move the damned dispenser or put it out of sight and she told me it was there for the entire building and if I have a problem with it, it's my problem and no one elses. And that i should get a grip. That was about 4 months ago. I have tried with all my might to GET A GRIP. I keep thinking about what Connie says - happiness is a choice; well, so it taking fistfuls of M&Ms - it's a choice. But when the compulsion comes over me I go on auto-pilot, and I can't seem to stop...

Grrr... what a wench! Get a grip? HOW RUDE!!! See, people like that always get their comeupance. Sooner or later. Just pray for her mean ol' soul! Then do this behind her back hee hee... I know...I thought about the whole...if you have them on your desk, then you'll eat them problem. I know all about that too. You know, it could be that she WAS eating a TON of them and it possibly had nothing to do with you, but she's using you as an excuse! Hiding her OWN demons behind yours. She seems like the mean spirited type. The notion of someone asking her "Hey why did you stop brining in the M&Ms?" and instead of her confessing she was eating them all said...you were instead. The wench! Don't worry about it sweetie. She probably didn't say anything... and if she did...they know what type of person she is. Who wouldn't with remarks and nastiness like that? 'sigh' Well being that she is so mean and snotty, you should try the mind set of... "I wouldn't touch her rotten stupid M&Ms if she were the last person on earth. Besides, they are probably cursed!!!" 'sigh' I wouldn't mess in her office for anything anymore if I were you. She sounds too...vindictive and nasty. Sometimes staying away is the best route to take. And the moral of all this rambling of mine is...don't worry about what people are thinking of you...it usually is never as bad as what we think and if she IS talking crap about you...the people in your office are probably mature enough to understand the type of person she is and know if she's mean to one person...she's being mean to others!!! Smile. Chin up! & Grab some sugar free M&Ms! Do they make those??? If they do... I'm sending you a bag! Love ya!

I can' tstand anyone beating themselves up over something like this it just breaks my heart. Don't let it bother you. Maybe she ran out of money or hasn't been able to go to the store to pick up m&m's. Or maybe she has finally listened to you and gotten rid of the dispenser like you had asked. You are probably right and she's jsut being mean. You could go into her office and thank her for not filling it. that makes you the stronger and better person. Or (and this is the one I really like) find out what candy she loves. You kow the one like your m&m's. Get a big old bag put it on your desk and let her suffer! Graciously offer some to her! When she says O No I couldn't touch that! Say its not a problem go ahead! Become the candy pusher! In a way I'm glad she's taken it away. It has been a sad subject foryou. She's done you a favor! Keep your chin up Reenie we love you! No body else matters!

Naw, she's not filling it on purpose. I know. You wanna know how I know? Cuz I went into the drawer in her office where she keeps the huge bags of M&M's - and they're there, three gigantic bags of them. The dispenser is still sitting on the table where it always is, within fingers' reach just inside her door. But it is plug empty, has been for 4 days now. I know she's doing this because of me. I guess you could say I was robbing her blind! Thanks sweetheart - hey, WHEN ARE WE GOING TO SEE EACH OTHER AGAIN??? Why don't we go to the next L&M meeting - 6pm, I think it's next Wednesday. COME ON, PAMMIE!

hey Reenie! Don't feel bad. I don't like the M and M woman. I personally think that when she starts filling it again, you should just go in there with a plastic bag, empty the entire container in it and say "thanks", then walk out and throw it in the garbage. She can put ANY OTHER CANDY IN THE WORLD in her office and she puts something that she KNOWS bothers you. I'm not thrilled with the people you work with. They don't sound like nice people to me. Part of being a team player and a good co worker is to support your fellow man/woman. If I had candy in my office and someone told me that it was a trigger food for them, I'd get something else. Why do people have to be so mean????? Do the senior administrators know how nasty the M and M woman is? I think someone needs to tell them. Your friend, Joanie