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My guy and I have started talking about getting married. No he's not asked me yet but I think we are leading up to that. We talk about were we would live. We both own our own homes. WE both agree that we would need to each sell our places and buy together. Both of us are territorial so if either of us moved in with the other it would be Mine/mine. I like his little house alot and he likes my condo. The selling of them would work best. My pets are important to me he's getting use to them. He talks to the birds he even walked the dog! Dogs and cats he can adjsut to Birds are an aquired taste. I'm one of those pepple "love me love my animals" they are so dependant on me and they are my little babies. While I understand someone else might not have those feelings like I do for them I need that person to understand my feelings and how important these little creatures are to me. I love this man. I am scared too. He's very good to me. We talk alot. We are very much alike. The important things we agree on. His family is great I like them they like me he likes mine they like him. we are pretty equal with work and finances. He complements me I do the same for him. He also has helped me become better in some ways. We do not agree on everything but we do listen. He loves me and laughs at my jokes. I'm still scared and am taking my time. Each converstation that we have makes us a stronger couple. We miss each other when we are not together. Whew.

that's some pretty heavy stuff for so early on a monday morning! pammie...if it is right for you and you want it; you have my blessings and prayers!!!!! i have decided that i will never have another fulltime in my house in my bed in my face man should something happen to my michael. some folks are better not having that commitment-i seem to be one of them.my insecurities pushed me and i have learned. at his expense soemtimes.don't misunderstand...il ove my michael. you are right; birds ARE an acquired thing...says me, living in our house of currently three large macaws!

I understand about being afraid. I was single for 27 years after my divorce. I didn't date much , when a man ask me out or a friend tried to "fix" me up I said I am never getting married again and I'd just be waisting my time and his. I had known Charles since I was 6 years old. He is 11 years older than me. His sister and I were best friends. When his wife died he ask me out and I wouldn't go, so my sister helped him out and we all went out to supper together. I told him the first night I would never marry again and he said he didn't want to get married, he just wanted somebody to go out with to eat or to gospel singings with. Well, we were married in 10 weeks!! I'm not saying our marriage is perfect, but it's the closest thing to it I can image. He's so good to me ! We will have been married 10 years on the June 15th. He has never screamed at me or anything!! When we first married I would get mad about something and say something mean to him , he wouldn't say a word, then I would have to go back and say "I'm Sorry". So I learned to let little things go that I didn't like and now I don't have to say "I'm sorry". We never fuss and I know that is hard to believe, but I'm 60 and he's 71 and as you get older you learn what is really imporant in life and the little stuff don't really matter. I want to wish you the best of luck in your relationship!! Love ya, Judy

Ah, Pam, how wonderful for you! And even more wonderful for him! If you do decide to marry, can I sing at your wedding??? 'course, guess I have to get invited first! It's so good to hear you sounding so contented and taking good care of yourself. Love, Maureen

Pammie Having a great relationship is a good thing!! Enjoy, Be Happy & enjoy everyday you have together. Just take it all a day at a time & if it is marriage then by all means go for it!! I am in hopes for a good relationship with the new boyfriend, as I for sure am due. Take care & thanks for sharing your joy in each other. Ladybug Marilyn

I wish you the best. I can verify that other marriages can work if you both make additional efforts. Alton and I have been married now over 2 years. He is very good to me and I to him. That is the way it should be. And the best part is the Trust factor.