Good morning LOVELY LADIES!!

The last time I posted on May 16th. I was pretty down. One week from the day I was told I was being transfered to the Middle school , we had a called meeting. To make a long story short, a lot of e-mails and calls were made to the Central Office and all of the managers are staying at our schools. When we got the message about the meeting I called the other managers and told them I wanted them to be in agreement with me that God would do what was best for us and we would do His will. They all agreed. The teachers at my school didn't know till Monday I was being moved and I found out Wednesday that they had sent e-mails and my Principal called. Evidently all the other schools did the same thing. I had all my prayer partners on the computer praying for us. So I don't really know what all was done here, but I do know what happened in Heaven, God heard a lot of prayer!! I had eaten myself silly!! So I gained 7 more pounds!! My cashier is over weight and she said she had promised God that if I got to stay, she would lose weight this summer so she could help more in the kitchen. So we are going to do it this summer together, with God's help. I'm trying something different and I will let you know how it works out. I want you to know that I have never come to this board without getting the support that I so badly needed!! You are like family and when one of you hurt I do , too. I do live my life off this message board and I know that you all do , too. But when I need support I know to come here to my friends. You are a GREAT bunch of ladies and I love y'all, Judy

Judy, I'm so glad everything has worked out for you. This is great news. Hugs, Connie

Judy, you are in my thoughts and prayers as always. I feel the pain of your struggle and I'm with you all the way. Terrific news that your job situation has ironed itself out and you can let go of some of that stress. Stress. It is the most powerful invitation to eat - and eat badly - as anything else I know. I continue to work every single day on trying to engage in other ways to alleviate stress than to eat over it. After eating way too much this weekend, I am recommitted to taking care of myself as the highest priority today. Make yourself number one today as well, okay? Good luck, sweetie. P.S. Thanks for saying what you said about our board being like family and sharing why you come here. I have to admit I was shocked by what was said about me in those posts last week and a bit hurt that no one really countered the attack on my behalf (although if I were any of you I suppose I would think I deserved it) - I was painted like a deranged, lonely, isolated neurotic person who sat alone at all hours of the day and night messaging this board because I have no life. I have a very full life - full of wonderful highs and incredibly painful lows - I come here to share and to learn from all of you. And what you said is so true...you are like family and when one of you hurt I do, too. So thanks for saying this. Love you, Maureen

I didn't see the messages till Sunday I think , I was so tatally shocked I didn't know what to say. I have never seen one bad thing said on this message board and I'm on your side 100%. And just for the record, I think your are beautiful inside and out. Your are a very caring person and you didn't deserve what was said to you. I know you have a good life besides just getting on this board, because you tell us about it. So don't give what was said another thought. Love Ya, Judy

Thanks Judy, I don't mean to whine or complain, hope I didn't come across as doing so. Last week left me pretty shaken, frankly, and I'm still trying to understand my kneejerk response to Kym's postings - all wrapped up in the two things I value most deeply: decency (not a moral code, more a code of living in a manner that does not bring harm to another living thing, intentionally or not); and children. One of my great mantras is 'suffer the children' - having said this, I had no right to inflict my life philosophies on someone else. Now then, how are you doing today??? Maureen

I'm sorry you felt that way, but I was of the opinion that she was not playing with a full deck, and I try to be nonconfrontational with people in that situation. I guess the thought never occurred to me to defend you because I am quite positive no one here thinks you are anything but a strong, beautiful and THIN person. We also know that you have a very full and active life, as we all do, and we appreciate your postings and listen to what you have to say...and value it. In a nutshell, I didn't take any of the things she said against you seriously, because I know that's not you. That being said, I actually do fear for her. Those pictures she had posted on her site are quite frightening, and not at all like the person who used to visit and post on this board. It seems she has turned quite dark, and I was not surprised to hear she had just came out of a mental health facility due to a suicide issue. I hope and pray, for her sake and the sake of her child, that she gets the help she needs. Joanie

I think you're dead on right about this, Joanie. The irony is Kym was one of the folks I sought out with an email to invite her to post at our 4-month anniversary mark. When she didn't do so, I was surprised - and happy - to see her post last week. I should have not answered at all because what she was proposing in terms of 'open marriage' is as alien to me as anything could be so if I were to be gut honest about all of it, I would have to say I WAS judgemental...although not condescending. But I read none of that in any of the other posts left by other folks, yourself included. That's what ticked me off, that she was so blatantly ungrateful for the thoughtful and compassionate responses she received to her first post, and meanspirited. She hit a nerve for me. But yes, she is obviously unstable and unhappy and I do hope she gets the help she needs to feel better...love you, Maureen (P.S., when are you heading up to Boston again? We will have to get together as you come through Connecticut! I would so love that!)