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well, well, well...seems as if some of us haven't grown nearly as much as we'd like to think. i mean, honestly, when someone on here posts looking for support or information and all you guys can do is throw out a bunch of comments on how that person dresses or looks? i'm sorry, but that is beyond me. for a group of people who've been made fun of and riduculed our entire lives, you'd think that we'd be the last ones to slam someone else for such trivial bull**** now, really...is THIS appropriate? "...So, now I am happy to condescend and judge - in a phrase, honey, get a grip. Go out and do what you gotta do but not at the expense of other people, particularly your children. Your husband is an adult and can make decisions for himself - and why he's chosing to stay with someone who needs to sleep around is something I can't wrap my head around - but too often, people bring children into the world when they can't see beyond their own childish self-interests and self-perceived needs. Parenting is the hardest gig in the world, second only to marraige. If you are not committed to either, get the hell out of their lives. This forum is open to anyone who is sincerely interested in sharing and caring about mutual health and personal growth - but not at all to people who ridicule any of the people here - and for my part I will add I am not interested in hearing from anyone who can't see beyond their own petty world of narcassistic self-interest, satisfaction, and satiation -- sexual or otherwise. Don't let the door hit you too hard as you leave - and don't ever smear the folks who took the time and trouble to respond to your post again - condescendingly yours, Maureen P.S. I personally think you look like hell - you should see a doctor or something..." touchy little things, aren't we? good god. i guess i should apologize. apparently, i was really out of line to think that i could come here and get some insight into some things that have been going on in our lives since the surgery - how we relate to one another - what it's done to our relationships. and it's a little sad that after four years, some of you don't have anything more important to do in your lives than to be on an obesity website "daily". but then i guess it is a lot easier to sit back and judge from behind your computer screen than it is to actually get out there and live. ps - maureen...have you even SEEN your picture?

Ok, so I was out of line about how you look - but I don't apologize for the rest of it. Oh, and thanks for asking - I'm living the hell out of my life, giving myself to other people in any way that I can be of help - why don't you read my column, "Living Normal" that is published quarterly in the nationally syndicated magazine, WLSLifestyles? What have you done for someone other than yourself lately? Oh, forget it - talking to someone like you is like talking to a sponge wrapped in cellophane. I notice also that you didn't answer any of the questions I asked in your first post - how IS your weight doing, Kym? This photo of you is quite old, I remember it from TWO YEARS AGO. If you're so successful, why don't you do something useful and share your tricks ... on second thought, no thanks - Maureen

what the hell is wrong with you? maybe this is why you feel so incredibly alone and hollow. you're nothing but dead inside. and i for one, i have no interest in reading your little article. also, i've done quite a bit for a number of people. i work. i volunteer. and thanks ever so much for asking, my weight is fine. and no, i haven't updated my profile in a really long time, because i've been busy with life. i no longer have time to sit around and worry about a website that doesn't really even apply to me anymore. i've lost the weight, i exercise, i eat what i should, and i'm good. no trick to it, sweetheart. the only reason i even posted was because i figured that it might be something that others have had issues with because of the weight loss. how my son, my clothing, and my picture became an immediate issue, i really don't see. but whatever. you're obviously all very well acquainted with the whole sponge concept. i think you need to take a really long, hard look at yourself. maybe this is why you are so lonely and feel that you need to come to this site just to take away some of that emptiness. that's just sad. maybe you had the right idea: quit your little article and stay in bed forever.

OK-- Girls. Let's stop this and be respectful. Kym, when you ask for opinions, you have to realize that some will not be what you want to hear. I think that all opinions (at least, I'm sure of mine!) were offered with respect and a sincere desire to help. My daughter likes to say "God gave us 2 ears for a reason. The things that people say can go in one, be filtered by our own judgment and, if need be, go out the other." Kym and Reenie, I care about both of you, but IN MY OPINION you are BOTH being too sensitive to opinions and life styles of someone that you disagree with. We each have to live our own lives. It does us good to respectfully listen and evaluate the opinions of others, but we are not obligated to agree. Shoot, I don't even agree with MYSELF some days! My wish for us all - to live well and prosper. Joy

Well, Joy, this is what I just received in my personal email account from Kym: heh. i'm fairly sure that you're just always going to be an absolutely miserable and depressed, lonely, overweight, wrinkled up hag. This person is a stark reminder never to trust the false sense of security of thinking we can share anything with each other. There are strangers that lurk here that we nothing about. To you and the rest that have been loyal to this board in the spirit of friendship and caring, I apologize for my knee-jerk reaction and feel silly that I've invested any time in responding to any of it. Maureen

that did NOT come to your "personal email account". that was a reply to a post that you made. you're not the only one allowed to give their opinion, you know?

and you had to go looking for it -that was not a reply to a post that concerned you...and again-you were out of line. you are correct that you should be allowed to give an opinion however....that particular comment was truly uncalled for. you want us to treat you with respect and treat you fairly yet you kick someone who is already down....oh my.... and, yes, i had to look for this-i was curious to see what else was posted on maureen's thread as i knew it was a difficult one for her.

nah, i didn't have to go looking for it. i'd remember reading it awhile back. and yes, it does apply to me. she asked for OPINIONS. that just happens to be mine. sorry if the truth might hurt her itty-bitty little feelings. actually, oops! no, i'm not. and i would have NEVER singled someone out and picked about their every little thing the way that she did to me. and if you want to talk about someone being already down...? i read her response to me about leaving my husband and child and being selfish and uncaring and ugly approximately 3 1/2 hours after being released from the behavioral health center here for being suicidal. this hurt. this really, really hurt.

I am sorry to hear about your experience, but if you are feeling suicidal, perhaps there are bigger issues at hand. I hope for you, as I do for everyone, that you get the love, support and help that you need. One day at a time.... Joanie

Kym I have stayed out of this, but, if you are so damn unhappy with the information you got, then go & stop giving us crap & keep upsetting this board. Good-bye We for sure don't need you & we will keep supporting each other like we always have.] Enough said!!!! Ladybug Marilyn