...and i'm done.

i'd like to take maureen completely out of this picture for a moment and focus on something else that you keep referring to and that is ppl who are still attachd to the boards (my words)after 4 years-i am one of those- and i guess it is sad...kym...i have been thru hell and back with my husband's illness in 2005 and his work accident in 2006 and our finances and my jobs and having to leave them ...and more...these boards-this one and the over fifty forum are my only solace--my family cannot understand these things like some of the folks here-connie's husband had been on one of the debilitating meds my husband had before he died, so she can relate- the over fifty group--i have met many of the folks-i spent a weekend in oct in dallas with 21 of the most wonderful loving ppl who are no longer just ppl on the computer-some of those same gals were in pittsburrgh in april with me- a total of 14 of us for that--and the bonding is awesome- we can relate--and we worry about each other--i feel closer there than i do here but-i guess i am one of the pathetic ones who need these boards---i have not made goal- i have issues and these folks help me thru them- they are honest-sometimes TOOOO honest and frank and they tell it straight... you did not ask to be judged- i did not mean that-but you asked for input--and you got it--and you don't like what you got--i have been there done that......i personally was taken back by your comments about french kissing and some other stuff- again--i am no prude --i have actually quite an exhibitionist approach in my past which i do not talk about -it's no one's business here--however i do not like to see this stuff on this board...so i actually almost stayed away.... i know- don't like a post move on or don't read...but this board is not like that..... i am sorry that you think it is so simple to post nicey nice now--i doubt your veracity. probaly i should delete that line-i won't because i mean it. your posts earlier were impudent and i feel that they were for effect; which you got. kym...we all come to the boards in times of need or in times of joy-i am still glad that you felt that you could come to us however-the uproar that has been caused is out of hand. and it needs to stop. trashing maureen or attacking the intelligence or mental balance of any of us is not good for morale. this next is a signature line of a friend of mine-i do not know who said it-i think we should all think seriously about it . "Be kinder than necessary, for everyone is fighting some kind of battle"

and i'm sorry, but i really did want to thank you for taking the time to speak to your friend on my behalf. i haven't heard anything from her yet. but i do appreciate it. that's really all i was looking for: some validation that this sort of thing can come up, people do experience it, and the consequences that i know would come from it. it's not something that we're set on, just something that we're tossing around at the moment. so i wanted to get some real-life suggestions and advice from people that might have gone, are going, or are thinking of something like that.

you are welcome. i hope that she will contact you tho she is not online all of the time.