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Maureen, I am so sorry that the surgery did not do what you thought it would do. My brother in law has gained and my sister was talking to him about checking into the surgery. But I know stress is your main problem. I have been divorced and it's hard. I was single for 27 years and never thought I'd marry again. I agree with Connie about waiting for a couple of years. When this kid grows up things will probably be good between you and your husband again. I don't have any kids, but I've been one !! My Mama used to say if she and Daddy had got divorced she would have made him take my sister and me. We were not bad kids, but we were kids and I know we caused her a lot of heart ache. So, try to take one day at a time and things will be better before you know it. After I got about 18 Mama and my sister and I were best friends till she died. As for your Daddy, there is nothing I can say to really help you with this either. I felt like a little girl again when my Dad died. I was 37 years old. I still miss him and he's been gone 22 years, but I know that he and Mama are in a much better place that we are. And you must know that you have nothing to be ashamed about!! We are all in this together and we are always here for you. Love you, Judy

So sorry it is so tough for you, Dear One! You sure got some great advice from the people here. I think that when my kids were teens the only thing that held my marriage together was the knowledge that each of us would have argued in court that the other one should have sole custody of the kids! (And that is only exaggerating a little bit!) We both wanted the dog and wanted to be rid of the kids! The kids are not perfect now, but they are independent and productive in their own ways these days (at ages 31 and 34****asionally they even surprise us by doing something outstanding! And the marriage is not perfect either. How can it be, when I am half of it?? But we ar muddling through. My only advice is to try to deal with one crisis at a time. And don't be so hard on yourself. If it takes an M&M, or a handful, or a package, or... to get through the day, then let yourself have them. I know that is not what you want to hear--you feel you deserve punishment, but I think you have punished yourself enough! It would be preferable if you would find some non-food ways to comfort yourself, but M&Ms have been many a woman's friend in time of need! Forgive yourself for being human. Love you! Joy