BIg Mess!!

Marilyn, I'm running late this morning, but just had to stop and write. I'm sure you're at least a little disappointed that you're not pregnant, but I imagine that you are probably also breathing a sigh of relief. So let's look at the situation at hand... I like Joanie's suggestion about working something out with your landlord for the back rent. Maybe if you go to her with a written promise and plan to pay off the back rent within the next 6 months she will work with you. An eviction takes at least 30 days in most places and it will cost the landlord money to involve the process servers and serve legal papers. Convince her that it is also in her best interest to keep a stable, quiet woman who isn't going to tear up the place and will get caught up on the rent. Contact some of the animal assistance groups in your area for help with the dogs. Explain your situation and they may be able to help with dog food for the short term. That will at least take that weight off your mind. You may need to look at getting a second job for a little while until you get back on your feet. So let's talk about Billy... Ask yourself some hard questions and be honest with yourself. Has he been there for you? Other than the sex, what does he offer you? Has he helped with anything when you've needed help? Let's think about the last few days. You thought you were pregnant, you are broke, you're facing eviction, you're not eating properly. Where was Billy? Did he call to see how you were holding up? Did he offer any help? Did he come and hold you and offer comfort during a very difficult time in your life? I don't know the answer to these questions, but you do. Here's one more question... If I were in your situation with a man, what advice would you offer me? I know you're tired and feel like the walls are closing in. Take a breath, get some sleep and then make a plan. I know we've been a little tough on you this morning, but it comes from concern and love. We want to see you happy and healthy and you deserve better than what's going on right now. Hugs, Connie