an apology to all

This is our venting board. WE are hear to listen and reply or to take any beating any one of us might have to do at any time. Lets face it we are human but we are at computers. What better person to lash out at? I've certainly said things here that I wish I could have taken back after I'd pressed that final button that says sure post this message. Oh well. They'd been written ment at the time. then gone who can ever remember what they were? not me. I hope no one else remembers what I wrote but if they do. I'm sorry... again! Its also the place were maybe late at night i"ve not been able to sleep, or i've had a terrible time during a break up, maybe a good date, maybe a bad one, maybe fianlly meeting a great guy and trying not to mess this up!!!!! thank god for this board. Its been so much more than a place to just keep i ntouch with others going through out surgery and after. Its also cheaper than a doctor!

Margo, I'm a day late and a dollar short on all of this, but I just want too let you know that I've been thinking about you. I keep wondering how you are and how you're holding up. You have so much on your plate right now and I don't know how you do it. As someone *****ally has walked in your shoes, can I advise you to forgive yourself? Your weight is the least of all your issues right now. You're eating to medicate and maybe that is what you need to be doing right now. The very person who is supposed to be your rock, Michael, is in no position to help you through a rough time so don't beat yourself up for falling back on what has been a tried and true support system, food. I know there are people who would consider my advise weight loss blasphemy, but the reality is that you don't need to be rough on yourself when the rest of the world is beating you down. Lots of love, Connie

the haldol dosage has been cut in half and we are back to walking that fine line between human and raging animal....so it is a tuff place to be right now...i am starting to really hate the person i am married to on occasion and i know it is not what i should be feeling in my heart....thanx connie....i know you have been there......

In the book "Blink", they talk about studies that have been done with married couples and predicting their success or failure at staying together. The single biggest predictor of failure in a marriage is contempt. According to the author, when one of the partners begins to feel contempt for the other, there is virtually no chance of saving the marriage. You can get over hate, but contempt is another matter. Do what you need to do to save Margo. If you can stay with Michael and do that, so be it, but if you need to leave to save yourself, don't look back. You are the most important person in your universe and lif is too short to be miserable. Love ya, Connie

Well Margo; I'm showing up really late to this thread, and I don't really have much to add except to say that you have had a very rough row to hoe for quite awhile now. I think that the good folks here understand a little venting. Just remember that venting is a pressure-relief valve that keeps the whole system from exploding. If we can't handle a little venting, we serve no useful purpose to continue this board. We are here to support and support we will. I for one have fallen down on the job lately, and will try to do better. Keep the faith and keep posting. Mike

You know, I didn't respond right away because I just didn't know what to say.... There is no need for an apology. This is a place to come to for venting and sharing. First of all, you are a very strong woman. I know because I'm one too but we all have our breaking points. What you are going through is traumatic at the very least. As concerned as I am about your husband, I am more concerned that Margo is taking care of Margo. We all are guilty of trying to spread ourselves too thin (no pun intended) and neglecting what we really need for ourselves. Every once in a while we need to take a personal assessment and figure out what WE need and take care of that. There is never a day that you should not be here posting if you need to. We will always understand. Take care, my friend, Joanie